My mother would have stayed with this man but he did some very bad things and she thinks its time to move on. The first marriage only lasted for not even a year.From when she was 18 to a little after i was born and i was born when my mom was 19.( i was born in january) the second marriage lasted from when i was 1 to when i was 5. my mom has been married with this guy since i was 10 but they were dating from when i was 6 to when i was 10 and then they got married. i've grown really close with this one, but even i admit that he has done some pretty bad things. HELP ME!!!!!!!!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO?????
2007-02-26 01:01:55 · 11 answers · asked by Kaitlyn A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, I know you must feel pretty upset by all of this... There really isn't anything you can do.. It isn't up to you and it for sure, isn't your fault. Only your Mom can change this situation. I would say a hiatis from the men thing would be a good start. She needs to look at herself and ask herself why she gets into these relationships. This is really hard to answer since I don't know all the details. It sounds as if your mom is looking for love in all the wrong places. I don't mean that in a derogatory way. We all need to feel loved and needed, but sometimes we can make an awful lot of mistakes in the process of trying to find this. I am a christian ( haven't always been) and I would say she needs to get to know Jesus and his love for her. I at one time, was looking for love in all the wrong places myself. I have been married and divorced twice. I have been single now for 27 yrs. I have a friend, but that is the key, he is a friend, first. We sometimes jump in way too fast, before really knowing the person. I will say, the very best person I have met is Jesus, in my heart. It has opened up a new vision for me. It isn't easy all the time, we have the gift of free will and need to be discerning... Getting, putting myself, in another enviroment, around christian people who have helped me in my search , to learn his word and his love for me , helped me immensly. I don't mean to be preaching here, but this is what has helped me. I will say a prayer for you and your mother. God hears all prayers and he does know you and the situation. Wish I could reach out and give you a hug, sounds like you could use one, your mom too. The change needs to start with mom though. You can also pray that God brings the right people into your life and one day the right person for your mom. God Bless you sweetie.
2007-02-26 01:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by Godlover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem is not with you but your mother in all due respects. She should take her vows a little more serious especially when it comes to the part where it says "for better or for worst" I would let her know that she has to make decisions for the whole family and what is best not just herself and tell her how this makes you feel. If that doesnt work just hang in there and learn from her mistakes and dont put your children through the same damage.
2007-02-26 01:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by faithfullyyours 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not one to judge because I have been married three times and my marriage now is not going well at all. But your mom sounds like me and just does not choose well. I would suggest to you just be supportive to your mom. I know you have become emotionally attached to this last one. Even if they break up that does not mean you can't keep in touch with him. That is your decision to make.
2007-02-26 01:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom to stop marrying guys who have done "pretty bad things." What is she desparate? Why keep having short term marriages? Just get boyfriends and cool off alittle.
2007-02-26 01:06:52 · answer #4 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you now?
Anyway it's very understandable that your mum tries to have a nice long-term relationship-commitment but they didn't work.Like you said you feel very close to the third one ..and you still can be close.IT'S just between your mum and her partner din't work out.Just don't turn your back on your mum ,is not her fault .Try to talk to them both..how you feel about this situation..what s bothering you the most ..Good luck:)
2007-02-26 01:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by lanicolette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let mom do what she feels she needs to do . You can also see if it will be alright if you want to keep in contact with him through letters or whatever . Mom needs you to understand she is making this decision for the best . Good Luck !!!
2007-02-26 01:09:35 · answer #6 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn from your mothers misstakes she has poor judgement in men . and till she stops being so desperate it won t change don t fall in to the same routine good luck to u and your mother. Hang in there things will work out .
2007-02-26 01:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by twopipes1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage your mom to stay single this time ... there must be some issues there. She seems to pick the wrong guys.
2007-02-26 01:06:32 · answer #8 · answered by ValleyR 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Handle it just the way you did the first two times!!!
2007-02-26 01:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by Stann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe in your mom. Understand that she is doing what is best for all.
2007-02-26 01:07:42 · answer #10 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋