I am alot younger than my husband (13 yrs), and i don't think he is happy. How do i put a sparkle back in our marriage
2007-02-26 00:52:32 · 30 answers · asked by Pink Princess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am 24, he is 38
2007-02-26 01:00:42 · update #1
romance...go out... gifts.... surprises.....
2007-02-26 00:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by Vinz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what he likes . I can give you a couple sex ideas and romance ideas . Romance ,surprise candle light dinner with his favorite dish followed by a path of rose petals or even colored ripped up paper from the front door to the bedroom while your dressed like a queen . When he comes home have on the table a card and flowers or something he would enjoy ,have baby oil on hand at all times to give him a massage on back , shoulders , feet etc... Never forget to ask him first how was his day and listen . Do not bring your problems to him when he comes home , wait until you two are relaxing and let him know . Men hate that ! Also try a little role playing as well . Good Luck and Best Wishes .
2007-02-26 01:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you being 24 doesnt put the sparkle back in the relationship, what will? Most guys would give their right arm for that.
2007-02-26 01:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by finished 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard in pleasing a husband 24/7 for a long length of time. Sit down and find out what is wrong....just to see if it's you or work or whatever. Just make sure that you aren't doing something that is displeasing him. He may be depressed from work...or being winter...or from lack of sex.....or how his team didn't fair the last week...or it could be he is troubled in choosing the right gift for you on your upcoming birthday! In any case, sit down and show your concerns. Knowing that you care like that will help him in making it better. Suggest to him a get-away weekend where you will be all his without all the hustle and bustle of hiw workplace that is draining him. Try something new in something he had recommended the last few weeks/months. I am 10yrs older than my partner and it just makes me love her that much more when she is trying to make it better by surprising me with something from her heart. Try a bed and breakfast somewhere...or a weekend ski trip...or a camp trip that you haven't done in some time. It all depends on what has been troubling him. In any case....find out what it is and then go from there.
Good luck =)
2007-02-26 01:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by indyhype 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a start,the age difference doesn't matter a hoot..If you had common ground when you married,it should still be there..You do have to communicate though..We don't know your husband and wether or not he's happy,ask him..If children are now involved,you will have to split your time so your relationship with your husband will be different but it should be better..Make time for him and only him.If you used to hold hands,do it again...Just to cheer you up;My daughter married a man 21 years older they have children and are still like a couple of love-sick teenagers...
2007-02-26 01:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by trish b 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him and he loves you. But things can sometimes get stuck in a routine. Change your routine and surprise him. Without knowing what you two have done in the past its hard to answer. But just little surprises.. ring him and tell him what ud like to do to him later and hang up before he can answer, take him out somewhere different or plan a sexy picnic in ur bedroom with a difference.. there are many ways to change your daily routine, let your imagination go and have fun. Good luck x
2007-02-26 02:33:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im exacly the same as you. im 19 and my hubbys 26. we have a toddler and a baby and no time to ourselves. were not rich but we can afford to have nice things in life and be able to go out as a family one day a week. so were not struggling.
but i also feel that things have gone little down hill since been married and ive even bought things to satisfy him in bedroom but he doesnt seem to be interested anymore.
why not go out together for the night and then have a talk about life and see from him what could be inproved. show him that he means the world to you and also make sure you get it back
2007-02-26 01:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many possible answers to a question like that, but I'll give give two that may help.
1. Talk to him. (He may just tell you what he really wants)
2. Go to http://www.amazon.com/ and check out these two books written by Dr. Laura Schlessinger.
The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage by Laura Schlessinger
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Laura Schlessinger
This should be the direct link to the right page. (I think?)
http://amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw/103-0330084-4424658?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=Dr.+Laura+Schlessinger&Go.x=12&Go.y=9
2007-02-26 15:07:03 · answer #8 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be showing signs that he is not happy, you must ask him what the problem is before it gets out of hand. Is he pining for the relationship he was in before you two got together. Perhaps he is just a quiet, moody sort of a man. My advice would be to keep the place clean and tidy, cook for him and be a tigress in the bedroom. Good luck.
2007-02-26 01:01:32 · answer #9 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you start with the I do not think he is happy. Did you sit down with him and ask him if he was happy? And ask him what you could do diff rent. Before you come here and post this you need to talk to him first. He should be the first one you go to. You need to work on communicating with your husband and everything else will fall into place.
2007-02-26 01:02:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mercia is absolutely right! to keep a sparkle in a man's eye and steam in his stride you have to keep him sexed up. Another good thing about that is, he'll do anything you want, and he'll be too worn out to fool around on you! lol Funny but true!
2007-02-26 00:59:12 · answer #11 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋