Im aged 24 and i still feel like i can sometimes be inadequate, like im not good enough, i do stupid things or i cant do the simple things right in my life, it is common in teens but is this normal? are some people slow learners than others.
2007-02-26 00:48:23 · 5 answers · asked by Ash4ElishaCuthbert 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think the result is lower self-esteem, but that is not the source of the problem.
I think...
1) You need more passion in your life - do you love your job? your profession? do you have any major interests that you really love and spend a lot of time doing and enjoying? If you don't, then you need to find out what you love, and do it. Be it. If you're stuck in a so-so job, with just so-so hobbies, in a so-so life... of course you're just going to feel so-so or "not good enough." And it'll take courage to choose another path & life... and you'll feel better about yourself After Courage, not before it. This is because the reward for overcoming fear = confidence and love.
How is this related to inadequacy? This is because when you're doing what you love, you will feel that the love is enough. Just like when you Truly love somebody else. They are enough. And if you love doing/being something, you'll naturally want to become better - and you will become better, gradually. And happier.
2) When you say you can't do stupid/simple things right, these things are probably extremely unimportant in life. Stop using other people's standards for what constitutes "simple" tasks. Many geniuses can't do simple everyday things right - but they excel at their specialties and strengths. And that's what you need to do: discover your specialties and strengths, and develop them.
I do stupid/simple every day things quite often. People think it's funny - in fact, I even think it's funny. However, they also think I'm smart - which is an illusion, because what they think is naturally smart, is really just the product of 10 years of accumulated practice/knowledge/ability in certain subject areas outside of my job. It was a result of work, effort, and love - I don't regret it for 1 second, even though outwardly, I have no title, grad. degree, or license (none of which I wanted or believed were necessary to me for a "successful" life IMO).
Everybody is naturally smart in certain areas - the key is to find them (and your loves) and cultivate them. Then you will feel better about yourself, and you will also gain the respect of others.
2007-02-26 02:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by sky2evan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're talking about low self-esteem. You know, everybody feels inadequate, because life is so challenging. We make mistakes all the time and often feel foolish. The thing is, we also have strengths, and you do, too. What you need to do is make a list of your strengths and accomplishments, large or small. Then, give yourself credit. If you dismiss every good quality, every achievement as trivial, that's unrealistic...and you won't earn self-esteem. It may sound like cliche, but you gotta be your own best friend. Be a lifelong learner. Acknowledge the positives along with the negatives. You can choose to do this.
2007-02-26 00:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 00:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Everybody's different. Maybe you take time to become good at doing something. Don't give up however, and if you think you cannot do something then maybe all you need is more time.
2007-02-26 02:53:22 · answer #4 · answered by Gabbylikesit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not you are not don,t worry
2007-02-26 00:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by lovepets 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋