advise there wives to leave them, after all it takes another woman for him to have an affair with, So my point is we cannot just blame one party, trust me i know woman who threw themselves at my husband knowing he was married and had kids. Dont these woman think of the day when this could happen to them, how would they feel. And as for the dressing its out of control, so which normal straight man would not look.
2007-02-26 00:36:40 · 19 answers · asked by lonelyheart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i look all the time. but i only do my wife
2007-02-26 00:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Normal adults look at attractive people all the time. That's perfectly understandable. It's window-shopping, and you can share that with your partner as a laugh or as a source of fantasies.
Normal adults often flirt in public, as a form of social behavior. That's perfectly acceptable. You can turn the energy of a social flirtation back onto your partner later on, making it a good jump start for your evening's activities.
The line gets crossed when it turns from casual social behavior to an affair. That involves conscious decision on the part of both participants, and that is where the censure comes in. Sure, the "other woman" is partly to blame, but she's not the one in the relationship that's being violated. So therefore, she's not the main consideration in advice to the wife when a husband has an affair -- he is.
There are two people in a marriage/relationship, and when there is a problem, only those two people can be involved in fixing it. Spending time and energy trying to somehow "handle" the other woman is wasted effort -- you can't go out and change her. That's why most of the advice deals with the husband and not the "other woman".
2007-02-26 00:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by Jarien 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not about the single woman.But about the married man with a commitment.I have always felt, a woman doesn't owe you anything your man does. unless the woman is a friend or a family member.This way of thinking is a old school way of thinking.I don't care if a woman gets butt a ss necked.There's no well a man is going to be a man.You have a choice(the man) and if you feel like f ucking this woman and betraying me is more important then walking way then let it be what it is. But don't blame the naked woman.I feel this way because a man has to take responsibility for his actions don't put it off on something else
And to that weak a ss comment that ELBOW made grow up. It takes a real man to comment him self to his wife any body can fu ck. EX.Dogs and cats Fu ck that doesn't make them real men.
2007-02-26 00:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some women (and men ) just have no morals. It certainly takes 2, but I've seen a lot of wives who only blame the other woman, as if they forced the man to have an affair.
2007-02-26 00:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by Susan H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact of the matter is that it takes more than one party to cheat. However the guy or girl that a persons mate is cheating with doesn't owe u anything. Unless u r friends and they have a respect for u in that way, they don't have to respect any relationship that u have. Your husband or wife, however, does have a committment to u (unless u have decided otherwise). That person should have some self control and enough respect for u to be honest about what's going on. I totally disagree with your logic. Is that the dillusional idea that u used to justify your husband's cheating on u? Keep telling yourself that, lol.
2007-02-26 01:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by Vince R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We criticize because they should have enough restraint to control there hormones. if they get excited then they need to come home and screw the **** out of there wives (a fantasy never hurt any one, plus it could be fun) and who's to say the wife doesn't have those feels (it some fine *** men out there too u know) but back to the serious it's to many death row deceases out there and protection or no protection no one wants to think of there partner husband or wife with anyone else bottom line is they and all should be held accountable for the indiscretions....one
2007-02-26 00:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by golden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it usually is the other woman who initiates it, and throws herself at the husband. but he made the choice, he fell to the temptation. i do not think the other woman considers the feelings of the wife, she is just interested in getting that man and every thing she thinks the wife has in life. chances are the other woman is looking for a long term relationship that she hasn't found and this is why she Perseus the married man, she sees potential, she sees a man who is loyal, and this is what she wants. she never sees that the same could happen to her, she feels she is better than the wife, and can meet all of his needs. she listens to only his side of it, never realizing she may be in for the same treatment once they do get in a relationship.
2007-02-26 00:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So true those women need to be hog tied and burned. Also they might not know because the men told them they were single. You know how men lie and keep secrets. I would know if my man was fooling around with me, because I have been there once before , so I know the signs.
Those type of women you describe here I hate with a passion. They get off on seeing if they can ruin a persons family. Women are more turned on by attached men anymore.
All I know is my man gets all he needs and then some so he has no need to stray.
Watch out for their married female coworkers too, they like to screw around and see if they can snatch someone else's man too.
2007-02-26 01:05:12 · answer #8 · answered by clints_wench 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. I have to completely disagree here...and with a couple others who have answered...with this train of thought.
A husband/wife who cheats really can't give an reason that is acceptable. Waving a steak in front of a hungry person doesn't necessarily mean they'll jump for it.
For those who DON'T blame their spouse but the other person instead...why? Does it embarrass you that the one you chose to marry/spend your life with screwed up?
Sure, it takes two to tango, but what happened to saying "No"? What stopped the husband from walking away? His crotch.
Everyone makes mistakes, but they don't all have to be forgiven. Blame the "other person" as much as you want, but just remember that the spouse chose to put their marriage in jeopardy and no one else.
2007-02-26 01:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by Slimslimmer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I will put it simply and easily for you:
My husband is the one who made a vow to me. Not another woman. Sure, she may be a skank and very disreputable to be chasing him, but any married man who is secure in his vows will not be tempted by that.
So my beef will be with him, primarily. Women who get primarily mad at the other woman have some issues.
2007-02-26 00:59:53 · answer #10 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it takes two to tango. The first rule of marriage is LOOK BUT DON`T TOUCH!!!!! Women can throw themselves anywhere they want without thinking, and men too for that matter, but the other party doesn`t have to be soooooo willing! Men are just known for having their brains in their pants!!!!!! ( LIKE ELBOW!!!)
2007-02-26 00:52:42 · answer #11 · answered by MISTY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋