I have this friend who just recently broke up with her boyfriend and now shes just been cutting herself on the wrists and today i saw her using a pen knifr cutting the letters DEAD on her ankle. What should i do ? This has left me and my friends pretty freaked out . . .
2007-02-26 00:26:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your friend needs professional help.
Talk to a trusted adult- a school counselor, a parent, a teacher.
Tell someone you are concerned for her safety.
She may feel like you have turned against her as a friend, but trust me, you cannot keep this a secret. Please tell someone!
2007-02-26 00:31:13 · answer #1 · answered by KnottyJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting is a pretty serious way to act out. Try to be supportive of her in this time, but make sure she gets help. A teacher, a school counselor, her older siblings or someone... She has to talk to someone, and the only really helpful thing you can do is convince her to do it. And if you can't convince her, you may have to tell someone. You may wind up feeling like a tattletale, but in this case it would be for her own good.
2007-02-26 00:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting is a very serious disease and this person needs professional help. I know about cutting and their are many underlying issues as to why someone would do this to themselves. I do not believe it is because of her boyfriend, (however I do believe it triggered it) and if she continues to do this she can permanently hurt herself or even die.
So please tell an adult, please talk to her parents although I know how hard this is, you do not want her to be angry but please try to get her help. She may be mad at first and probably even longer but in the long road you have helped someone that is badly in need. There are crisis centers you can call. Just google them in your location.
Good luck and you are a good friend. I would have you as a friend anytime.
2007-03-05 06:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by megabites42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ignore this problem. Be a good friend, and suggest that she get some guidance. If she refuses be a better friend, and tell a counselor, a parent, or someone that will know exactly what to do. Don't carry this burden alone. If something happens to her, you will have a huge guilt trip on your hands.
2007-03-05 22:09:38 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you talk to the school principle or her parents ASAP. She is showing signs of depression and needs intervention now. Be a good friend and don't worry how she feels about you interfering in her life. Doing so now will save her from worse later and someday she will be happy that you did it!! Thank you for caring. Good luck.
2007-02-26 00:33:10 · answer #5 · answered by gary t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd really talk to her let her know that theres othere ways to take care of her problems try introducing her to a different guy, take her to church let her know that everything will work out hand out with her as much as you can try to get her little gifts and really let her no that your there talk to the guy maybe you can get them to just be freinds... or somthing... if it comes down to it talk to an trusted adult... don't get an adult envolved right away cause that just gets most teenagers all P.O.ed i really will be praying 4 her hope i helped REMEMBER BE THERE 4 HER AS MUCH AS U CAN AND DO EVERYTHING THAT U CAN DO TO HELP HER!!!
HOPE THAT I HELPED(OH ASK GOD WHAT TO DO HE'LL KNOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
2007-03-05 11:55:04 · answer #6 · answered by got.to.get.over.him. =] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your really her friend its time to tell an adult before she really hurts herself. She seems to be suffering from some sort of depression and it seems to be serious,, she will thank you in the long run but seriously tell an adult. I once had a friend who had similar problem but didn't tell anyone what he was doing to himself and he hung himself at the age of 18. Tell someone please............
2007-03-04 20:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by Tracie H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE WANTS ATTENTION AND EVEN IF SHE WONT ADMIT IT HELP!! I HAD A FRIEND WHO USE TO DO THIS TO HERSELF BECAUSE SHE LOST HER BROTHER, TALKING TO HER ALL SHE REALLY WANTED WAS A FRIEND(s), SOMEONE WHO WONT ANALYZE HER OR TELL HER WHAT SHES FELLING IS WRONG (PHYSIOLOGISTS), SO MY ADVICE TO YOU IS TO GET YOUR GROUP OF FRIENDS (CLOSE ONE WHO ARE GENUINE AND UPLIFTING NOT THE NEGATIVE ONES) AND GO OUT TOGETHER HAVE A GOOD TIME.YOULL NEED THE CLOSE FRIENDS TO REALLY GET INTO HER LIFE AND GENTLY COAX HER OUT OF FEELING SORRY FOR HERSELF BY MAKING HER FEEL GOOD , SHOW THAT YOUR THERE FOR HER AND VISE VERSA
SHE PROBABLY FOCUSED ALL HER TIME AND EFFORT INTO THE RELATIONSHIP AND NEGLECTED OVER ASPECTS OF LIFE (SOCIALIZING,FAMILY AND FRIENDS ETC..) SHE JUST NEEDS TO GET BACK TO WHAT REALLY MATTERS IN LIFE FRIENDS,FAMILY AND FUN...
2007-02-26 02:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by Ben Macca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend had this same exact situation with her friend. what she did was confront her about the cutting and ask her to seek help. if she refuses to, speak to a parent or teacher,
2007-03-02 07:10:31 · answer #9 · answered by original girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind your friend about the good things in life. Be nice and positive, confort her and see what happens.
2007-02-26 02:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by xo-Cherry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋