i just found out hat my best-friend has cancer but she is around 21 wks pregnant. how do i help her cope with that??
2007-02-26 00:09:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My stepmother went through the same thing. Diagnosed at 5 1/2 months, 2 rounds of chemo and a mastectomy during pregnancy. My advice is just like everyone else's, just be there for her, but also there are support groups for women who are pregnant with cancer. They will be very helpful. And by the way, researchers have proven that chemo has no long term effects on the baby up to about age 20 (that's how old the oldest kids are whose moms had chemo during pregnancy)
2007-02-26 00:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by Erica G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, poor girl. I would say comfort her, and be there with your shoulder to cry on if she needs it. Does she have a man in her life that is there too? I would talk to him and encourage him to be very supportive. Now that she is pregnant and they found the cancer, the doctors will know what to do. More than likely she will be put at a high risk pregnancy so she'll be more closely monitored. When talking to her, after your initial conversation about the cancer, I wouldn't bring it up, I would let her bring it up, so that way you know she wants to talk about it. She is going to be very stressed out, especially worrying about if she is going to be there throughout her childs life or not. But, if it was caught early enough, they can do treatments and try to get her cancer to go into remission, which will provide her with a longer life. I hope things work out for her, she must be really young. Also, what type of cancer does she have? Because there are many ways to try to help a cancer patient..If she wants, go to the doctor with her, and have her tell all her questions to you, just in case she forgets something she has you right there to help her remember. Plus, if you know what the doctor says you may be able to provide her with more comfort. Hang in there and keep being a good friend.
2007-02-26 00:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her and when she feels down make sure you bring her spirits up. Help her enjoy this pregnancy and her life. Tell her not to focus on the cancer but to focus on raising and loving her child. Call the Cancer Treatment Centers of America and see if they have some counseling they can offer. Remember to be her best friend and not her funeral planner. There is no guarantee that cancer will end her life.
2007-02-26 00:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by lilbitt_637 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life deals us such cruel blows. Really at a loss. Can't the medics advise her as to what to do? Be there for her no matter.
2007-02-26 00:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to support her is simply
"being there" for her. You'll go through
it together as best friends.
2007-02-26 00:14:31 · answer #5 · answered by Bonnie Lynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry to hear that. all you can do is be there for her. and hopefuly she'll live long enough to develop a realtionship with her child.
2007-02-26 00:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by Nay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think there is anything you can really do, just be there for her.
2007-02-26 00:14:09 · answer #7 · answered by jjsoccer_18 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋