I "met" this woman through a Yahoo group that we are both members of. She is one of the people on my MySpace friends list. I recieved a generic bulletin about abortion one day and reposted it, as it said to do if you were against abortion. I never expected that bulletin to start a debate with anyone on my friends list, however the one woman responded. I responded back saying meantioning another friend of mine who is anti-Bush, while I am pro-Bush therefore for the sake of our friendship, we have agreed to not discuse politics. I suggested the same to this woman about abortion. Her response back was instead putting me down for "ignorance" and giving her opinion on abortion and on Bush, which is pro-abortion (She had one) and anti-Bush (she called him a useless, murderer). I defended my opinion, stating it wasn't ignorance, it was due to my religious beliefs. I noticed that she then removed herself from my friends list, and me from hers. Should I appologize to her for something? What?
2007-02-25 23:51:00 · 13 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The reason I said "friend" is because I really don't know her very well. I only met her online and that was about 2 months ago, so loosing her "friendship" isn't going to destroy me. I just don't think I did anything wrong. She voiced her opinion and I voiced mine. She didn't like mine is all there is to this, but if I did something wrong, I certainly have no problem appologizing to her.
2007-02-26 00:00:19 · update #1
This is not a real friend. I am pro life, but that doesn't mean that I am gonna go and tout my opinions in front of an abortions clinic. I feel like if someone else wants to do that, then let them. I will not have to live with that mistake, but that is my opinion and my option for me, not everyone else. I am also Pro Bush too, but I do not discuss politics with my friends b/c I know that they are all against him, so I keep my mouth shut.
Like my grandfather used to say "Opinions are like a**holes, everyone's got them."
and if she was such a friend she would have overlooked your opinions on things whether she believed you or not.
2007-02-26 00:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by Amber C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Apologizing will not do any good. Especially since she has removed you from her list. Some subjects no matter how much one agrees with should not be broached.
You may consider this person a friend, but, in the end she was just an acquaintance because a true friend may disagree with you a lot but is still there. Those type of friendships do not come along but a few times in ones life.
I am sorry you lost an acquaintance and hope you have a true friend.
Let her cool off and if she contacts you do not apologize for your beliefs just start on new topic of conversation and continue from there. BUT never forget this lesson you've learned.
2007-02-26 08:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by Nana 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that if any ones being ignorant, its her. I wouldn't apologize to her if it were me. She should apologize to you. You were just voicing your opinion and beliefs. If she didn't agree she just didn't have to repost the bulletin. Instead, she decided to be ugly about it and do what she did. I wouldn't lose any sleep over it. She's showed her true colors and if you're like me you don't need "friends" who are gonna judge you just because your opinions or beliefs are different than hers. Be happy you have one less jerk in your life!
2007-02-26 08:17:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Why apologize? You are not allowed a opinion. Her loss. If you apologize after that she will see you as weak. So it is not even worth the time to think about it. Have a nice day.
2007-02-26 07:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by bill a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are entitled to your opinions, regardless the subject.
Your friend sounds like the type of person that has to be right all the time and denies other people the right to their own thoughts.
She is the one who took herself off your friends list, so dont worry about it. She is not worth it.
2007-02-26 07:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by Gail : 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you don't want to rock any boats you shouldn't be trowing around a topic like abortion. You could try to contact her and apologize but it may not do any good it sounds like she is pretty passionate about the subject.
Live and learn
2007-02-26 07:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by dorie0371 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Never excuse who you are but always be considerate of others feelings so you should
-Remind her that having friends that are opposite to us makes life more fun because its a constant learning experience
-Tell her that yo respect her opinion and that you never meant to target her in any way because friends nourish the spirit and you consider her a friend.
-Ask her to forgive you and suggest that you each remain open minded about each others opinions because this helps you improve your friendship.
2007-02-26 07:58:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
no, you have every right to voice your opinion, i don't think you were pointing your finger at her for her own personal actions, were you?
i think her strong reaction would be due to an underlying guilt she has over her own abortion and to convince herself she has done the right thing, she will fight tooth and nail about it. if she didn't, it would be like she believed she did the wrong thing.
let it go.
2007-02-26 08:19:19 · answer #8 · answered by noodle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU DIDNT DO ANYTHING WRONG THATS WHAT MAKES US DIFFERENT OUR OPINIONS SO IF SHE IS THAT ANGRY ABOUT IT THEN LET HER KEEP ON PUSHING BUT SOME THINGS WE HAVE TO AGREE TO DISAGREE AND LEAVE IT LIKE THAT IM TOTALLY AGAINST BUSH BUT I RESPECT YOU OPINION FOR IT SO ANY WHO THAT SHOWS YOU WHAT TYPE OF PERSON SHE IS IF YA'LL CANT HAVE A CIVIL DISCUSSION
2007-02-26 08:05:26 · answer #9 · answered by mocha27girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your friend cant respect you for speaking your mind then she wasnt a very good friend now was she? seriously i have very few "friends" because of the fact that if i feel strongly about sumpin i let it be known people in todays world cant handle that you have your own opinions about things and it tends to p.i.s.s them off thats their problem not yours.
2007-02-26 07:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by kenallen75 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋