i have text to say i will stay away as we need some space ive had no reply - and i am feeling pretty miserable. the problem is how many times can you sit down and talk things through - do you sometimes have to just walk awy as much as it hurts and as much as you love each other ?
2007-02-25 23:18:58 · 22 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
End it ..stop tormenting each other.
2007-02-25 23:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well from the look of the questions you've posted before I'd say you've been intermittently miserable for the last month or so at least.
Eventually you have to realise that no matter how thirsty the horse is you can only lead it to the water, you can't force it to drink-or in your case force it away from the pub and home a bit more often. I get the impression that you get fed up, nag a bit, he does exactly what he wanted regardless and then you nag a bit more but louder with nothing actually getting resolved.
He is never going to see that he has something worth making an effort or changing his habits for if you chase after him now-you will set a precident that will mean you'll be saying the same at 35 as you are now-possibly with kids in tow.
Now I'm not saying don't enter into a discussion about what's happening, but let him approach you-he'll make contact either when he's ready to talk or sheer curiosity about why you haven't phoned/texted him yet gets the better of him.
As hard as it is,(and yes, I've been there), you have to stand firm and 'risk it'. If he doesn't call within a week then make arrangements to fetch your kit and consider yourself well out of it.
You're after a man(by the sounds of things) with some maturity who wants to settle down and perhaps start a family and men are only ready when they're ready. To try and force them into it is a bit like randomly taking bites out of a half cooked chicken-you might get lucky and be fine but it's risky!
2007-02-26 01:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can both sit down and talk things trough till you 80, what you need to do is address your problems and take action.
Remember, you cannot change, only compromise so don't be making promises to be a new person. Don't let pride get in the way, if you have made a mistake, admit it. Be the first to apologise. Have fun in your relationship and learn to trust and accept each other for what you are.
If you have tired and tired, you may have to admit that you are not compatible. Yes, it will hurt but is short term hurt worse than long term?
2007-02-25 23:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by benn26k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some very good advice here. I got divorced a few years ago and if it wasn't for our daughter (who's come through it all remarkably well), I'd never see my ex again, which would be the ideal thing. If it's all gone then walk away. Do it as friendly as possible. Keep vexatious friends away from the scene and stay apart. No contact. And NEVER go back. Move on. Good luck.
2007-02-26 00:46:03 · answer #4 · answered by Soggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Geri,
If he is man enough to walk away, he has to be man enough to stay away. and if you are ok letting all this happen, you will be alright too, make sure your next relationship is built on a more solid foundation So Geri honey, there;s a good chance it wasn't love, and you were ok for all the sexy reasons you were there for. but any relationship has to be more than just a good feeling or a mess in the bedroom. cry now, get over it, get him out of your life and dress up and go hunting, you will eventually find the one you are really looking for, Good Hunting Darling, but do intensify your searches, to suit you first.... Bye Honey..Tony M
2007-02-25 23:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by tony m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right thing is always the hardest to do. In the end the love for yourself should prevail the situation and even if leaving is because you love yourself enough to know you dont want constant hurt then its reason enough. you came into this world alone and you will die alone so make good choices for yourself. Only you can move to find real love.....
2007-02-25 23:25:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and walk away, If the two of you have already sat down and talked and things haven't changed then they are not going to. I know that it hurts but things will get better, So tell him goodbye and move on with your life.
Good Luck with your decision!
2007-02-25 23:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by butterflybaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both have been rowing for some time and that you are both unhappy then it seems wise to move on. He may have already decided that as he has not replied. Don't be tempted to keep texting him.
leave things alone now
2007-02-25 23:38:44 · answer #8 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, you're so right there!
Sometimes you've just got NOTHING left to give.
Give each other loadsa space and time apart.
After that, who knows? And in the meantime, you may just find love elsewhere.
You sound so sad, but I wish you the very best of luck!
2007-02-25 23:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by Moofie's Mom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes...I was in the same situation always arguing about anything and everything under the sun. Sometimes it helps to step back and really analyse the situation. Good Luck!!!
2007-02-25 23:23:55 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, Time to go! I know I get sooooooo sick of talking about the same ole, same ole crap and nothing ever seems to change. It`s best to go catch another one of those fish in the sea we`re always hearing there`s plenty of! Best of luck to ya!
2007-02-26 00:01:24 · answer #11 · answered by MISTY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋