My ex partner have been working on getting back together. We have been broken up for a year. She says she can't understand why It bothers me so much that she speak's & see's her ex. She says they are just friends. She says she loves me & that her heart belongs to me. Her ex gives her money & gave her $5,000 to buy a car with. Do I have reason to feel threatened by this, expecially when she hides it from me or how do you explain this to her that it bothers me that she does this behind my back & takes money like that???
2007-02-25 23:08:06 · 9 answers · asked by J.J. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You may LOVE her but you need to go ahead and say goodbye to her, There is no reason why she should be taking money from her ex and she definitely should not be hiding it from you.
Good Luck with what ever you decide.
2007-02-25 23:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by butterflybaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh how I dislike the "we're just friends"..... If she can't understand why it bothers you, then she is not listening to you. Nor does it bother her that it troubles you! Her ex gives her $ and five grand to buy a car?!?! That's just not right, or at least it doesn't add up with me. But I can't make a truthful comment on that, because I don't know why he does these things for her. BOTTOM LINE...IF SHE IS HIDING THINGS FROM YOU NOW, SHE ALWAYS WILL. A solid relationship is based on truth and trust. I believe you deserve better and should get out of trying to get back together. She has her cake and is eating it too!!! She’s going to hold on to you and her ex as long as she can, while you are left justifiably questioning her feelings for you and her ex. Life is passing you by when you could be finding a trusting partner. Best Wishes,,,,Now get out there ENJOY LIFE AND FIND A WOMAN THAT APPRECIATES YOU!!!!!
2007-02-26 07:40:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, a friend that gives her so much money for just being a "FRIEND"?? lol i dont think so.. Seems to me she has a "sugar daddy" Friend, or perhaps he's a friend with benefits?.. Geeze if not then i need to find me a friend that hands out money like its nothing.. lol..
Sorry i think she's lying, im sure if u got with this guy he'd tell u a very different version of this friendship.. more so her stringing him along for the mere fact of using him for his money..
Curious, have u met this friend yet? Does he come to the house for say dinner, or just to hang out, with u there?
If not, please ask her to invite him over for dinner, if he's a "friend" then u have every right to meet her friends and try to befriend him yourself.. if she comes up with a million excuses why not to bring him over, theres something there, if he does come over use it as an opportunity to feel this guy out on what his intentions are towards her..
Your a guy, u'll know if he's wanting her by his body language ect..
My personal oppinion, is she is up to no good, and u should probably take a deep look at where ur relationship is, if he chooses him over you, u know where u stand and u will "ALWAYS" be second and u should never come second ..
2007-02-26 08:42:12 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To better understand this, we need to know the extent of your previous relationship and what caused the break up. Then the present relationship and what has progressed thus far.
The "we're just friends" part is something that shouldn't be there if you two had issues stemming from that ex factor. If she is willing to go abover and beyond to be with you and claims to change to love you and you being in her heart as her one and only, than that ex factor needs to disappear. If your current run on your 'mending' relationship is to work out to have a smoother road, then she really needs to open up her eyes and see how it is affecting you as a partner. Love means sacrifices, especially if it comes to "I will do anything to have you back" deal. If she is the one who wants this relationship back, then she is the one who needs to make that supreme sacrifice of letting that ex go and be out of her picture as long as she is wanting to fix your quality time. That $5000 only means more obligation to him in the future to her. I would be very leary if I were you. An ex giving that much money out for no reason or just for being nice reason, usually wants something or is thanking her for something. I have ex's and they are X'ed out of my picture anytime it troubles or worries my current partner. It should be a common rule. Until that relationship have a true concrete foundation, 'just friends' will need to be placed aside until that foundation hardens. Plus, hiding information is not a healthy way to start a relationship back up.
Good luck.
=)
2007-02-26 07:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by indyhype 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man is not going to give a woman that large sum of money without her being MORE than 'just' a friend. She is cheating on you dude. Your being played!
2007-02-26 07:17:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is hiding it, then there is a problem. She sounds like a real player to me. Let go while you still can.
2007-02-26 07:13:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
face the truth....she has two men in her life. you, and him.
if you can be happy just living day to day without placing any restriction or expectation on her....then just be happy with the time she shares with you.
she may be playing him for money, and who knows if she gives him sex as part of her technique?
she wants you to stay out of that part of her life.
2007-02-26 08:06:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
his giving her money makes u feel insecure, and also threatened. if she is hiding it it is no good, she should be more truthful, but may know that being truthful upsets u and causes confrontation.
2007-02-26 07:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a PLAYER....with no kind of morals...dump her and go on with your life.
2007-02-26 07:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋