My husband complaints that I am not so expressive in love making. I do lovw him very much from the bottom of my heart but he feels I am not interested in him. How can I make him feel that I do love him,
2007-02-25 22:15:28 · 23 answers · asked by g.k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Find out his interest and solve
2007-02-25 22:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by Expression 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sTOP: In your heart do you think he is telling the truth or is he looking for an excuse to have an affair
(seen it happen to a friend of mind)
Ok this is what you do when he says it again
say darling I am sorry that you feel that way; can you take time to show me what you want & tell me what you like
Man does no understand they do need to teach us as well as we the same
my X was my first I married a V (my mistake) I learn nothing he was a bad lover
so I got a d was affraid to sleep around because of the talk about STD so I got remarried I told him "listen you will be my second sexual experience so it is your job to teach me " and for the past 3 I have learn & still learning
but in your case if you truly feel that you are lacking get some book
Oral sex is great
Do you know also what I realized the after shave /perfum a man wear have something to do with your reaction
My h is French one of the thing he does is to put on smell that will attract me
we shop for perfum after shave together and vis versa for me
I realized also that some men (my X and many of my friends h) think sex is just an act
they treat you like **** in the morning --all day and when nigh come they want some
well in that case how can a woman express anything )since if saying no mean a fight
so just lie there and do it
Go to the sex shop get book for him and you
that might help
Good luck
2007-02-26 07:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's married you then he should be able to see you for who you are and that you do love him... you shouldn't have to prove yourself to him and especially not sexually..
You need to talk to him and try and get the point across that maybe your not comfertable making love and what makes you feel like this.. and try and make him understand that everything you do, you do because you love him.. and that sex isn't the main priority in your relationship[ and to value your other points..
You should though look at yourself and your relationship and things that your not happy with that may be having an effect on your relationship.. to resolve them..talk them through..
Look at yourself and your husband and examine both good and bad points...and what you love and ont.. and then the issues you have to find a way to resolve in your own individual way..
Good luck..
b x
2007-02-26 06:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by neeneeuno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Defintiely make the first move whenever you can - ie kissing being happy to see him, being romantic, being affectionate rather than waiting for him to make the move all the time - that makes some people crazy if its always them intiating things - and I have known men to divorce just for that reason.
When in bed try to be active not passive - if you kiss him and tell him how great it feels then he will know you love him. If he truly is no good then you need to tell him how to make you feel good, so that then you can truthfully say he is.
2007-02-26 06:41:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means your husband loves you, so he expects you too to love him. You can verbally express your love by telling him, how important he is in your life. Give him full care and attention when he is at home. He will have the wrong thought out of his head and everything is fine then. Bye and good luck
2007-02-26 11:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by keentoknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out in what way he is telling u that u are not so expressive in love making (emotional / physical) and then do just like he wants.
2007-02-26 06:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL, we're an insecure lot g.k . Men like to have that "cheering session" going. It's like a "atta a boy!" and "don't stop!" message.This makes me think of this line I heard. " Men want you to lie there and scream "Your the Best!!" while denying you've done this before." Good luck and have fun
2007-02-26 06:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well problem is known to you, so u need to become more expressive express your love in very romantic way, kiss him, hug him if he;s leaving for office and do call him during office hours just to say "i love u" say this in romantic way if he;s busy in meeting just msg him. if you are not planing to go out for dinner ask him what should u cook for him and be very supportive in bed.
2007-02-26 07:23:33 · answer #8 · answered by singleman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not so expressive in bed then try to be more outgoing. Do things like talk to him during sex, tell him your fantasies and even act them out. You won't believe how he will react to them. It will really turn hime on and even open him up more.
2007-02-26 08:08:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he didnt know about ur luv in your heart, he need more because u r the one who make his life wonderful & comfortable or miserable so u have to show your internal luv externly like you take care about his small & little things, send lovable messages on his mobile during his working hours & when he calls you on your mobile you say "I luv You a lot & i cant live w/o you janu, i need you at every step of my life". call him janu.... when he's upset give him a warm hug & luv him....i think all these help u
2007-02-26 06:42:55 · answer #10 · answered by shivi n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love him, and also most importantly make him feel that you love him a lot from the bottom of your heart.
2007-02-26 06:23:53 · answer #11 · answered by Stunner_cool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋