I've just come out of an intense 5 month relationship. Ended a few days ago. Before long we agreed that we'd spend the rest of our lives together, she even came off her pill to try for a baby before xmas (we got together Oct, now split for 6th time end of Feb).
I'd steered clear of relationships for a few years before and with her having come out of a relationship with her ex we were both cautious at first as a relationship was the last thing we were after (we met through mutual friends) but soon fell deeply, deeply in love.
That love has now turned to hate. We have both seen to it..
I feel I should steer well clear of it and don't rise to the bitchiness she's aiming at me and get on with my life, but there's always faint hope that we could still have a future together. But it seems she started the nastiness to cement our decision to split and there's too much water under the bridge now!
Should I hurt her back, play her game of pooh-stirring with friends or walk n never look back?
2007-02-25 22:10:49 · 14 answers · asked by Fyre 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have your pride, your dignity and your respect as well as the lesson learnt from this mistake so take that and walk away. You are better equipped to handle conflict now than you were before you met her and you lived before her so you can live after her. Some things arent meant to be so just take this as one of those events. Hurting her will solve nothing and destroy the lesson learnt and you are better than that anyway!
2007-02-25 22:18:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't walk....run. Funny thing is, once your start feeling better she will probably come back around. Its a pattern. Don't do it! Life is to short to do the yo yo dance. Relationships should come naturally, do not have a baby together. God, if you think your messed up about all this imagine a baby being yanked back and forth. Then child support, every other weekend forever and ever. Please don't make another child live out of a suit case. It is so sad. How would you feel if you had to live that way. So many children have to live that way they think its normal. Children thrive on consistency in their life. It makes a well rounded child with great self-esteem. Sorry, beside the baby thing... Where there is hate there is still passion. It is when you have neither that everything stops. But you can stop that roller coaster anytime. Leave it be and stay away, don't even pick up the phone and you will feel better - sooner. It will be hard but you can do it. The right girl is out there for you. If you believe in praying pray for your future wife. You will be suprised what you will find. It may take a while, be patient. Best of luck!
2007-02-25 22:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by Pinkielee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hurting back will only cause a circle of endless hurt for the both of you. It's not very healthy to go that route. If I was you, I'd try my best to ignore it and move on with your life.
If anything, that will irritate her the most. So, in a way, you win all the way around.
2007-02-25 22:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by Annie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...It's better that you give a her a chance but as you only told that is already cementing the relation for a split.I t's better that you just leave her alone and move on with yourlife..It's the most wise thing to be done..You will soon get over her!!!!!!
2007-02-25 22:15:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be the better person between the both of you.
Just walk away and never look back.
She will feel bad when she realizes that U are not going to hurt her back.
Be indifferent and carry on.
2007-02-25 22:25:09 · answer #5 · answered by CG 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I BELIEVE IN KARMA SO THE BEST THING IS TO MOVE ON AND NEVER OOK BACK BECAUSE THIS IS NOT GOING TO GET ANY BETTER BECAUSE SHE IS NOT TRYING TO CHANGE FOR THE BEST IN YA'LL RELATIONSHIP SO START MISSING CALLS AND ANSWER NO QUESTIONS LEAVE THE CRAZY GIRL ALONE
2007-02-25 23:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by mocha27girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away and never look back!
Read this book it. It can work for guys too: (just look past all the pink)
http://www.randomhouse.com/broadway/breakup/itscalledabreakup.htm
2007-02-25 22:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by neat09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't together for long. You are just lonely move on find someone else. Good luck
2007-02-25 22:16:44 · answer #8 · answered by holly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away, why intentionally hurt someone it will eventually come back to bite you.
2007-02-25 22:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you must do is go sleep with her best friends.
Hate her with the fire of 1000 suns but ignore her. Continue this for 6-12 months and go date other girls, immediately.
2007-02-25 22:15:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋