I was burgled at Christmas, in which I texted my friend to tell her. I never heard a thing from her for 2 months. She rang last week and said, "Sorry, I've not been in touch, but I've been too busy. I'll come round and see you". I've not seen her. What should I do?
2007-02-25 21:17:51 · 30 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She is not a friend in any sense of the word! a friend is there for you when life gets to you, She sounds like a user not a mate, Why couldn't she give you a quick call or text to c if you r OK?? sounds like she just could not be bothered with you when you needed her !!! again she is not a mate. I would tell her to get lost because with mates like her who needs enemy's!! Or you could carry on being a mate with her as long as you except its on her terms and don't get upset when she is not there to support you when you need someone. Or you could give her a taste of her own medicine but do you really want to stoop to her uncaring not bothered about any one but her self attitude. I think she is just not worth it!Also has she not been in touch because she knows more than she is letting on about your home being broke in to!! so couldn't face you?
2007-02-25 21:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
As you become older, friendships sort of fall apart, it sounds like she's sort of already let you go, she's just being a flake about it.
If she doesn't have the time to call you back or come and see you, maybe asking her to be a friend is too much. You don't have to tell her so, just stop asking her to do things, since it's obviously too much to ask anyway.
The problem is now, when she needs a friend, she's going to want you. Your best bet is to become unavailable until she gets the hint.
2007-02-25 21:22:52 · answer #2 · answered by kenniemcooper 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't just let her go! Meet up with her in person and tell her what's on your mind. Tell her how you feel. You obviously need to get this off your chest. Maybe she doesn't know anything is wrong, or maybe she wants to end the friendship and hopes you'll do it for her by not being there for you when you need her to be. Whatever the case, get in touch with her and don't just speak on the phone, but rather face-to-face. That way you can interpret her body language and whether she's avoiding looking into your eyes and such. Whatever you do, be honest! Good luck.
2007-02-25 21:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by - 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
someone once told me that someone can be your friend but they don't have to be your friend back. people make choices and people learn.
i've encoutered these situations a couple of times myself.
the thing is....she might not know what she's doing or how her actions are affecting you. it would be good to talk to her about what you feel before making further assumptions. how she reacts will show what you should do.
also, it is good to forgive. if she comes back and tells you that she wants to hang out....then hang out with her. she is still your friend. but since it is still bothering you what she did in the past, make sure that you find time to talk to her about how you felt so that you dont hold a grudge. just say it nicely and let her know how it made you feel but you still love for her to be ur friend!
this way, she is aware of her actions and if she really wants to be your friend, she will try to compromise with you because she knows how her actions make you feel :D
2007-02-25 21:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by msweetangelsmile 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This will sound harsh but do you know why she was too busy has she been having any life changing situations in her life that have been affected her really badly all depends i think you should find this out first however if not get shut of her friends like that you don't need in your life good luck
2007-02-25 21:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by clare w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not so high on your friends list as she is on yours. Just let the whole thing slide and leave her alone. She might wonder why you have not been in touch with her and call you to find out why. Then tell her. People that are thoughtless to others hate being thought little of and their vanity makes them try to find out.
2007-02-25 21:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by ANF 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that this friendship dosent have a company initiating. whilst anybody is into that setup have been you in basic terms ring in case you have been rung on the telephone isn't a demonstration of a great friendship. a real buddy needs to speak and notice you...i'd nonetheless save her as a chum yet dont placed too lots emphasis on her being a "desirable" buddy. locate others who will touch you extra oftentimes and because they prefer to.
2016-10-16 12:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let your friend come round and see what she has to say.
I personally would have been very hurt if it had been my friend and she had not been in touch sooner.
People need help and support when something has happened.
Just see what she has to say before making a judgment.
2007-02-25 21:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by Tatty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did not see your friend in a couple of months and lost touch with her than I would tell her that you do not want to be friends with her any more.
2007-02-25 21:36:01 · answer #9 · answered by Heidi T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like one of two things is going on here:
1. There's something really big going on in her life that she either can't handle or doesn't feel comfortable sharing and really WILL get back to you as soon as she can.
OR
2. She's attempting to push you out of her life.
Personally, I'd say that if she called you to offer an explanation for her absence, she's not trying to push you out. Maybe she feels guilty about something and doesn't know how to tell you.
I would advise you to call her or text her and ask her why she's avoiding you.
2007-02-25 21:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by Annie M 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋