Should we make him and dissappoint other family members? I do not think he is old enough to leave alone.
Whta do others think?
2007-02-25 21:12:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The other family members want him to go.
My son just not want to go.
2007-02-25 21:40:12 · update #1
bUT HE MUST...HE IS 15 AND HE MUST OBEY...AS LONG AS HE IS STILL A MINOR, YOU R THE BEST DECISION MAKER...
TELL him to be family oriented and explain him the importance of family....without tht he will never appreciate family and the things the family has done for him....
get you priorities right, this is very important....Teach him family values, in happiness and in sickness, the first people who will be there are family.
2007-02-25 21:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jendralus 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could force your son to go but it may not be all that wonderful for anyone. If he stated he doesn't want to go, I'd be more apt to leave him behind. There's no use ruining a family vacation if someone doesn't want to be there in the first place, they'll just make things more difficult.
However, I would see about finding someone to either look after him at your house or send him to their house (the latter is the best idea). Make sure you find someone who is responsible and has control of his whereabouts at all times ( Mother, Mother-in law, Aunt etc.). Be sure to let him know that he will not be left alone and will not be able to do whatever he wants, whenever he wants, he has to follow the same rules as it is at home. Staying at a friends home is not advisable unless that is your only option.
I'm sure that when he finds out he's not all that free when your gone, he'll be more apt to come along ( it doesn't sound so much fun anymore). If he still stays home, have fun without him and be sure to let him know all that he missed out on. Perhaps next year he'll be a little more willing to tag along. Good luck.
2007-02-26 13:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't quite understand your question. I seem to be getting out of this that if you make him go it will upset other family members. Why is that, do they not particularly like your son? Of course he is not old enough to be left alone at 15 that would be a colossal mistake. The bottom line is he is 15 he has to do what you say. that includes going on a holiday or not. However there might be a bigger issue here. If your son is going to cause problems and disappoint your other family members, you might want to consider other options if he really doesn't want to go. Is it possible he could stay with responsible friends or other relatives who are not going on this family holiday? If not you could either take him and possibly cause friction or you might consider that the only option might be to stay home. I don't really know your situation so it is hard to come to a conclusion.
2007-02-26 05:27:52 · answer #3 · answered by Bobby the Brain 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a tough question. You know your son best. I'd say that the best thing to do would be to talk to him. Ask him why he doesn't want to go and let him know how much you would really like his company on the trip. Try to make the trip enjoyable for him. It could be that he just doesn't want to visit family members whom he doesn't like, or he might just want a quite weekend at home. If you think that he has good reasons for not going on the trip then let him stay and tell him to check in twice a day and ask a neighbor to pop his or her head in every once in a while to check on him.
He is your son and you know him best. Nonetheless, it's usually best to chat. An open dialog can be the best thing. That way he doesn't feel that you are making all the decisions without consulting him. In three years he will be independent and although it can be tough for a parent to let go, it's best to gradually make them less dependent and give them more responsibility. Let him know that you trust him and give him some independence. Granted this won't work if he is immature, and you fear him throwing a party/using drugs in your absence.
2007-02-26 05:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mark M 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Since 15 is kinda young to stay home alone I would insist he come on the holiday with the rest of the family.
2007-02-26 10:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him go. Tell him that he cannot always do exactly what he wants to do...no-one can. Tell him he will be old enough to make his own decisions soon, but in the meantime it would mean a lot to you if he would come with you. Tell him to do it for you and to try to enjoy it for the sake of the whole family.
This worked on my 18 year old son. He did come, he had a ball and now he's happy he went. (Mind you, it took 2 days of him being a loner before he participated in activities with us.) Good luck.
2007-02-26 05:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why does he even have a choice? You know your son best. If you don't feel comfortable leaving him, trust your gut. This is one of those times when the parent has to do what is best for the child even when the child disagrees. If he wanted to smoke would you let him or even consider it because it's what he wants? Of course not.
2007-02-26 08:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by Deb C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not old enough to be making a family decision. He will just have to go. He may end up having a good time. Just make sure and do something or go somewhere that might interest him.
2007-02-26 05:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.Blessed 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. You are his mom and know him best, so if you don't feel like he's ready to stay home alone, then don't. Tell him he doesn't have a choice. When he can grow up and show you that he is responsible enough to leave home, then he can make the decision.
2007-02-26 05:16:36 · answer #9 · answered by impossiblemama 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i don't think hes old enough to be left alone just think of the party's he could have and the trouble he could get in to i would make him go he will probably enjoy himself when he gets there x
2007-02-26 06:12:25 · answer #10 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋