Maybe I just don't understand the logic in calling a same sex relationship by a heterosexual title. Why not just say "the love of my life" or my "lover"? Can I get some input from anybody?
2007-02-25 21:09:09 · 39 answers · asked by therazorsx 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Wow, such anger for such a simple question that makes me think. I quess the world would be a much better place without dialog and understanding. It just goes to show that no matter your sexual orientation, you can still be an "******".
2007-02-25 21:21:45 · update #1
There is no clearer term to call someone, I think. I call my partner 'husband' when the situation arises. It fits best.
2007-02-25 21:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by pasdeberet 4 · 5⤊ 4⤋
Where's the confusion? A "husband" is a male spouse and a "wife" is a female spouse. We heteros do not own these words.
I've met hetero couples who call themselves husband and wife, even though they haven't gone through any ceremony. They didn't feel the need to validate their feelings via some religious ritual.
Before I got married (in fact the inspiration for getting married) I began feeling like this woman was my wife and I was her husband. If anyone feels the way my wife and I do, they ought to be married -- no matter what they have between their legs!
2007-03-04 07:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by urbangnome 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible. Sometimes it takes someone in a relationship to really hurt you and a defense comes up wanting to protect yourself from this kind of pain and some women do turn toward having a strong attraction for another woman because women tend to be alot more understanding in most cases than men are.
2007-03-04 14:41:47 · answer #3 · answered by honolulu808 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Melissa Etheridge called her partener her wife bacause she believes that they are together, she wants the same rights as anyone else. Why should GLBT people not be able to call there spouses by the appropriate names. You're just truly arogant.
2007-03-04 04:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by Logan...another anti-Doris! 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW! I was thinking exactly the opposite, about how nice it was to hear her say that. If that is the way she feels about her partner, then it is exactly what her partner is. I call my partner 'my husband' all the time, because that is EXACTLY what he is to me! He means exactly the same to me as any woman's husband could mean; he is just the same sex as me. If we were allowed to get legally married, he would BE my husband. It is just my way of showing that homosexual relationships are the same as other 'married' people.
I'm not sure why this offends you enough to ask this question. Quite frankly, same-sex marriage WILL happen in the US eventually, despite all of the protests by many groups.
EDIT -- anger? I don't see a lot of anger in these posts. Just disagreement with your question. But the question does have some homophobic implications there, although I don't think that you meant it in that way.
2007-02-26 01:18:35 · answer #5 · answered by Tikhacoffee/MisterMoo 6 · 6⤊ 3⤋
That is the term that one uses for a female partner in a long term serious relationship- whether it's legal or not..... thanks Bush and his cronies
It was necessary for her to acknowledge her life-partner just as any other person would.
2007-03-05 14:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty homophobic and it sounds bizarre to me too. This gay guy I know is married and he always refers to his butt buddy as his partner. Pretty sure he is the female . But I'm still jealous that all these beatiful women flock to him like honey . If he were to say his husband I would probably fall over . I wish they would all go back into the closet.
2007-03-04 16:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by westhighland 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Was it really neccessary for putting this on the GLBT section knowing that the majority of us are fighting for marriage rights, which would in fact include the proper marriage titles?
Only a close-minded person would do such a thing.
2007-02-25 23:04:56 · answer #8 · answered by Jay S 5 · 6⤊ 3⤋
Why not? It brings home the second-class citizen nature of gays and lesbians. We are not allowed to formalise our love for our partners in a civil union. Using the heterosexual terms in such a public arena makes the point clear.
2007-02-25 21:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by tentofield 7 · 5⤊ 4⤋
if they had a ceremony in which they acknowledged their acceptance of each other as spouse... then yes, I guess it is necessary... as necessary as the many str8 recipients who named their husbands and wives... the govt may be able to control our right to hold the certificate for now (legal terms), but they cannot control who we marry (religious terms).
2007-03-03 02:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could've done that - but perhaps she wanted to verbalise that she has made a lifelong commitment to her partner.
Wife would mean that - a lover wouldn't. Besides, what would the Oscars be if there wasn't a little controversy?
2007-02-25 21:53:26 · answer #11 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 6⤊ 2⤋