I'm getting married and my partner wud like to adopt my son.?

Question

can any1 help me? i hav a 5 year old son and his biological father doesnt giv a hoot about him! he doesnt see him and makes no attempt,hes a total waste of space.my son calls my fiance daddy and we r gettin married n the summer.after we get married we'd like to make it all offical,but do we hav to get my exs permission?if we do he will prob b (victoria dont swear!) but he will prob b nasty and for badness nt giv it,but if the court sees how brillant my hubby is and how my ex has never bothered does ne1 think it will b an easy process?

i was not married to my ex and i havent got a penny from him in 5 years.

Answer 1

iam going threw the exact same thing where you and your ex married?? if so i think it changes slightly but he he has no contact and i assume that he doesn't pay anything towards your son they will how ever speak to him that you cant avoid but no they do not need his permission just his view on what he thinks it doesn't matter if he goes nasty and says no he hasn't been involved and he hasn't been paying child support which you will be able to prove so go ahead iam in the middle of the procedure and my ex doesn't give a dam i know some people here say don't do it but adoption also means that if something happened to your son say an accident and you couldn't get to the hospital then you fiance couldn't sing a parental agreement if he needed treatment with adoption he can so its an allover benefit good luck

Answer 2

If his dad has had nothing to do with him for the past 5 years and has not got parental responsibility IE a court order or you where marred to him then there is not a thing he can do about it.!! If he is not on the child's birth certificate then there is also nothing he can do. If he has parental responsibility then as long as you can prove that your fiance has been and will be the stable male roll model in his life forever then, all his "real" dad can do is stamp his feet a bit in court. But if he does not have parental responsibility then you don't even have to tell him your plans. Hope all goes well for you I have been there myself and to be honest its a last resort court. And if he has no good reason apart from he doesn't want you to that's not good enough. It may be easier if he is going to be a **** to change your sons name to your partners name and then once you are married he has parental responsibility for your son any way and you are a family in name with out going through the adoption process, you solicitor can do a change of name deed for around £100 , Hope it goes well for you and your family(i have been there and its not easy) do whats best for your son and f*#/* his waste of space "real" dad

Answer 3

No, I don't think it will be an easy process if biological father doesn't want to give up his rights. Your son can call his step-dad Daddy, you don't need legal papers to feel that bond. He can love him like a real son without those legal papers. Wait until your son is old enough to change his name if he wants to. But by then, you'd hope he could have a good relationship with his real Dad, too. A heart can love many. I know you are disgusted with your ex right now, but please still honor the fact that he is the Daddy & maybe someday they can & will make up for lost time. Adopted kids, even if they really loved their adopted parents, still have felt the need to know & have a relationship with their biological parents if they could. Don't make that decision for him, please, while he's too young to understand. You may not be getting any respect from your ex right now but you can be the bigger person here & give some respect to him even though he may not be all deserving of it right now. Like I said, he may come around & have a relationship later with his son & that will be your son's right as that is his father. Doesn't mean he'll love you or his step-daddy any less. Take care & all the best for peaceful relationships!

Answer 4

Bracknell Forest Council's website has a lot of detailed information about Step Parent Adoption. It covers all areas, such as the criteria, the impact and birth fathers rights. You can read through the articles here: http://www.bracknell-forest.gov.uk/living/liv-children-and-families/liv-step-parent-adoption.htm

If your sons birth father has parental responsibility, it is likely that he will have to give his permission for the adoption. The court can decide in certain circumstances (absence for example - so that should be fine) that the absence parents approval isn't required.

The court will also expect you to have considered other alternatives (see: http://www.bracknell-forest.gov.uk/living/liv-children-and-families/liv-step-parent-adoption/liv-alternatives-to-step-parent-adoption.htm for details)

You will need to find a solicitor who specialises in children and family law. You will find details in the local telephone directory or the Yellow Pages. Most solicitors offer a free 30 minute session, where you will be able to ask questions about cost etc. They will be the best people to tell you if you are likely to find it to be an easy process.

The adopted child also loses any rights to maintenance and inheritance from the other birth parent or that parents family. In effect step parent adoption means that your child would no longer have any legal ties to the other birth parent and a large section of their family.

There is also a great section on adoption on Suttons Council website, with further information links and support: http://www.sutton.gov.uk/childrenservice/adoptionandfostering/stepparentadoption.htm

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Only with permission from husband can you get son adopted.

Or if you can demonstrate that your husband doesn't pay child support and then ask court to terminate parental rights!
Hope that help you

Answer 7

if the child is young enough all you need to do is ask the headmaster at the school and tell him that you would like them to be called by your married name they should oblige or tell all whom you know that you will be addressing any information to your child with your married name but with any legal documents you will put down their born name with their new name as preference i did this in 1980 and my step children have married in my name my grandchildren have my surname

Answer 8

Dont do it - i dont know my father and never will as he didnt give a hoot about me. but i think you should wait for your son to grow up and make his own choice. if he honestly loves you he will understand and respect your choice.

How can you rate my feedback as negative, when i found my step father did this to me it made me hate him even more and i changed my name to my mothers maiden name. i'm only giving advice from experience

Answer 9

your son is lucky and at the same time your fiance is a wounderful man.good luck to u all and towering your peace and success

Answer 10

thats what my wife said about me, but it was far from the truth but in your case talk to him about the situation and he should give you the nod