Ive never had a girlfriend as far as I can remember, Ive dated, fooled around and had my share of good times for a period of time. I would like to have children and have a succeful marriage. With out having a long term relatioship in the past, am i doomed to fail in marriage like my parents have, or is there still hope for me? What should I do? I like dating but I get the feeling eventually I wont have that much fun as I get older and would like to a wife by my side with kids.
2007-02-25 20:28:31 · 10 answers · asked by Jimsenite 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sure you do. Three things: HONESTY, COMMUNICATION(LOTS of that), and both partners putting 100% into the relationship.
2007-02-25 20:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think you have a better chance at a good marriage with your background. You understand that having fun is important, you just keep playing the field till someone you come across you enjoy being around for more than a few dates. When you find a good friend that likes to do a lot of the same things you like to do, and you are able to talk easy and open with them you are headed down the right path. :)
After 14 yrs of marriage being able to talk with each other has been the most important part of our marriage, it gets you past the misunderstandings and hurt feeling to a place where you can understand each other, even if you don't agree. No matter how good a marriage looks from the outside, EVERYONE has problems sometimes that they have to work through.
2007-02-25 22:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by shannon_crystaln 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, my opinion is that you are doing the right thing for you for right now. You are dating and getting all of that out of your system. There will be a right time for you to settle down and you will just know it when you get there. There is no magic age for anyone to get married, it's not on a timescale. Once you meet the woman that you can't live without, you will definately know it. I wouldn't stress out over not being there today. If you are still enjoying dating, then keep dating until you get to the place that you are ready for something more than just dating. We are not doomed to repeat the lives our parents had, I am living proof of that! My dad was married 5 times and had many girlfriends, even while being married. I am happily married with 2 kids. I just waited until I got tired of dating and felt like I was ready to do something else in my life. If you start getting to the place where you find you want something more, then start really asking yourself what you really want in a life partner so that you can narrow down what you are looking for. I have heard that eharmony has worked well for some friends of mine, but my hubby and I met on match.com, but that's not a fix all, I dated alot in the 2 years before I met my hubby and it sucked up until we met, lol! Best of luck to you, and you are not doomed at all!
2007-02-25 21:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by Tell me something useful 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think part of it depends on how old you are. If you're 80 years old, not so much. However, if you're younger (20s-30s) I'd say your chance is good assuming you find the right one for you. However, I think one thing you have to keep in mind is that you will NEVER find anyone that is perfect and has all of the physical/emotional/mental traits that you like or would like. It just ain't happening and you're kidding yourself to think otherwise.
That doesn't mean commit to some woman that has ONE of the traits you like. You try to find one that has most of them and if she is good to you and treats you right. If not, keep looking!
As I always tell my kids and employees where I work, if you want a guarantee, buy a toaster. Just hang in there and keep looking.
Good luck.
2007-02-25 22:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH My - my 1st husband and i got divorced and we have three children and so far they are doing well-No you are never doomed to be a failure. I guess we all long for someone by our side. There are times i wish i were just a robot-without these human feelings. Find someone who feels the same way you do. You can still love..
2007-02-25 20:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
smart - get a wife. have kids that you actually sired.
doomed - pretty much so these days. the odds are not good. your lack of steady r/s practice will not make it easier for you
go read some self help books, and do a self evaluation on your capability of sustaining a relationship. most impt, dont jump into marriage. make sure you go in eyes wide open
2007-02-25 20:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by lsl4x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
compatibility extra so because of the fact u adult males in good shape for a reason and as long as those motives are continuously there (i.e. comparable interets) then u will continuously be compitable whether if ppl replace, then this wont artwork on the different hand, love marraiges artwork becuz the affection is powerful and is there for a reason, whether love fades and a super sort of the time, love ameliorations (i.e. cheating better half) whether, marriage isnt based entirely on love or compatibility ... its additionally situations that upward thrust up and how ppl manage them and stress, and different exterior and inner forces .... gluck
2016-10-16 12:31:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jim, it sounds to me, that you have a lot of love in your heart to share with someone, and when that time comes, there will be someone there waiting for the love you have to offer and likewise. Find someone who has the potential to be your best friend and you will have someone who will support you and you will support and you will make an affair-proof marriage, that will give and not just take. I believe you are going to be, just fine.
2007-02-25 20:39:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Then why on earth do you think you won't find the one? You can commit to one woman and she will be glad you have never been in love before!!
2007-02-25 20:34:59 · answer #9 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first thought was no and so was my second
2007-02-25 22:31:40 · answer #10 · answered by Daniel S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋