Dont find my marriage interesting any more.
i dont njoy physical relation...even when i talked to hubby expicitly and he said he understands.he is not doing anything to improve it.
We dont have any good moments together except when our kid is playing with us.
We have physical fights..its mostly like ..he is waiting to get instigated to hit me and i hit him back.
Ours was a love marriage..but except for a father-mother relation,theres nothing between us.
Eveytime we have a argument,i am scared when he is going to hit me.....
But i know he cant live without me...ie he has got used to me ...but i am not sure if we still have anything in-common to continue..
2007-02-25 20:23:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know this might sound korny, but, have you prayed?......try conselling from someone you don't know then you will feel a little more relaxed to share what's on your mind and heart even if your Husband don't want to go, you go. Even if it is just for peace of mind and then take it from there. I know you are tired and frustrated and think, not another quick fix, but if you have any hesitancey about calling it quits, then you owe it to yourself to try all you know and new ideas that might help in any way. Don't just give-up, Girl. Fight! for your marriage.
2007-02-25 20:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He cant live without you because he wouldnt have a live in punching bag.....thats not love, how can you even think it is. You hit people you dont like. You hug and kiss people you love. No-one should stay in a relationship for the sake of the other person....it is living a lie......you are playing a role and its not honest. Your husband can live without you, and are you ready for this......You are a victim of domestic violence. If he thinks the answer to your problems is physical violence, then he needs help. He will never get help while ever you accept this kind of behaviour. If you are not happy, and you have every reason not to be happy, then you should leave. He has done nothing to keep you, as a matter of fact he is doing everything to see you walk right out that door. You are reliable....you put up with everything he dishes out, so of course he doesnt want you to leave him.....what other woman would allow him to treat her like a piece of garbage?
You need help....I suggest you ring up your local domestic violence shelter and talk to one of the counsellors there...she will not only have some valuable information for you, she will also have suitable resources to help you. Give it a try, you are not thinking clearly....you are thinking exactly the way of victim of domestic violence thinks.
You deserve better, but whilever you are thinking more about your husbands feelings than your own your self esteem will continue to go down and one day it will be non-existent,,,,When that happens you wont be able to get out because you wont have any emotional strength left.
Take care, you have one shot at life, dont destroy your life for the sake of another person.
2007-02-26 05:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem and I feel for you. I too am stuck in a loveless marriage where the only common interest is our children. We fight endlessly and I live in misery. I don't have any financial independence and feel stuck. I have no way out. If you can, get out now. If you ever want to talk more, email me. I can relate to exactly what you are going through and I suggest you move on. I wish I could.
2007-02-26 04:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder how long u have been married.
May be u need some time apart, both of u are taking each other for granted.
My marriage is on the rocks too am planning to get away for a while , may be it will help put somethings back into perspective.
2007-02-26 04:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's time for marriage counseling. That may sound expensive but it will do you a world of good. And since you both share a love for your child that is on the plus side. Call around and find one you can afford. You will love him more just because he is going with you which means he cares too!!
2007-02-26 04:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing in common . You do not respect each other I think he has already proven he can live w/o you b/c he does not care about your feelings. He doesn't have relations w/ u b/c it is a turn off Sounds like HE DOESN:T KNOW Y OU thats why this is happening .. U surely and clearly do not like him anymore.LIfe is too short 4 no respect or No happiness...............
2007-02-26 08:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay withit,i am unmarried the life is not good on this side to,any side you choice to stay you may have some or the other problem,adjusting is your answer,why dont you try to make the relation interesting,by doing something he likes give the relation a chance .
2007-02-26 04:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by toploser 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny how your question at the end makes you sound like a victim. But earlier in your question "i hit him back." that doesn't sound like someone who is afraid. You married to have some interests? People usually marry to have contentness. good luck
2007-02-26 04:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not the matter of your marriage being interesting its matter of abuse, and you need to get out before he starts to abuse the kids as well... just not a healthy relationship for anyone...
2007-02-26 05:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your kid is growing up watching his/her parents argue and hit eachother and never getting to see what it's like when two people love eachother.
2007-02-26 04:39:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋