i need some help here.my husband is going out of station for a week officially.his works demands him to.and i jus cant stay even a day without him around me...the very thought of me not seeing him for a week makes me cry.i know this will upset my husband but i jus cant do anything.i think i have some sort of addiction towards him...i love him more than anything in my life and it is the same from him.pls help me...thanks
2007-02-25 20:21:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you're suffering from separation anxiety which is understandable. I know it will be tough on you, but he will return. He is a very lucky man to have such a dedicated wife. Can you stay with a close friend who will distract your thoughts of him? I know it will be hard but tell yourself he will be back. Maybe you can go away somewhere on a little retreat so you don't think of him so much. I'm sorry. That's the only advice I can think of. Good luck and I hope all goes well.
2007-02-25 20:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn that energy into something positive. Paint some rooms in your home, or something. You might put a lot of stress on your husband for being away, and its work that he is doing this. Your neediness could jeopardize his job, which in turn could jeopardize your relationship. Relax. Its a week. You need some time for yourself, because you apparently have become to dependent on him. That's a scary thing to have to rely on someone that much. I understand missing him, but you are sounding like your not going to function at all. Thats a lot of pressure for your husband. If you love him the way you say you do, you need to understand that loving someone is more healthy when you first love yourself. Love isn't what a person provides for you. Its what you share that enhances a person. Your love sounds like he is a nurse. He needs a person to share life with. Not a person to take care of. Relax, he's not going to take this time to get away from you. Unless your neediness has pushed him over the edge. It can be destructive to a relationship when a person is extremely needy, but disquises it as "i just love them so much"
2007-02-25 20:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by ckgene 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you loving him is wonderful, but being so dependent on him is pretty unhealthy. What did you do before you two got married? You must have had a life pre marriage. You would have had friends, you would have had interests. There will be times in both your lives where you will have to be away from each other, so I suggest before this dependency get too strong and out of control where it becomes an obsession, you learn to find some interests other than your husband. Why stress both of you out needlessly. He loves you, you love him, and he is coming back. Maybe he might like your dependency now, but in years to come he may feel suffocated by you and will be looking for reasons to go away from you so he can have some breathing space. A week is not a lifetime and may be a good time for you to look up friends you havent spoken to for a while...maybe time to go see a good movie. You need to keep yourself busy so you dont get depressed about him not being there. Plan your itinerary now....work out what you are going to do each day. If you keep yourself occupied working out your itinerary, you wont have too much time to dwell on the fact he needs to go away for a week. He has to go, so you getting upset about it is just going to make you sick, and stress your husband out. Be sensible about this, you are an adult.......decide what you are going to do for the week...keep yourself busy and you will find the time will fly by. Sit at home pining for him and the week will drag. You are not this poor little weak woman who hasnt got a personality. Your personality is not defined by your husband. You have a personality of your own....find it again, be a little bit more independent....its not healthy you are putting your eggs all in one basket....you have to learn to rely on yourself. If you dont recognise you are too dependent on your husband now, your dependency will turn into suffocation....deal with it now.
2007-02-25 20:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That you love him more than anything in your life and will miss him is sweet and normal- the fact you say you have some sort of addiction is not. See a marriage counselor or talk to someone so this doesn't become an unhealthy obsession. Time apart should just make his return even better- just focus on that in the meantime. :)
2007-02-25 20:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by 8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Well you are going to need someone else to keep you company. Sitting there all that week will make it much worse. Do you have any relatives or friends who could be with you? That is your answer, fill in the gap with other people or stay as busy as you can!! Good Luck Honey. I am the very same way!! I usually stay on the phone!!
2007-02-25 20:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something to do like a hobby-bowling, reading, knitting, etc. to keep yourself occupied while he is gone. There are so many women in this world that have their husbands gone for a week or more, and do just fine. Just think, a week is nothing compared to having your man go off to war for who knows how long? Take care.
2007-02-25 20:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend your time planning for the reunion after the week is up.
2007-02-25 20:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up girl, you stayed with your mother for nine months and now you arewith with this man.who knows who you will be with tomorrow?
by the way how long have been married?
2007-02-25 21:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by mini-haven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are stronger than you think. Just think, you will have so much to look forward to when he gets back. Time will fly, you'll see.
2007-02-25 20:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip woman.....For you to survive any marriage you need to be stronger than that.
2007-02-25 20:48:46 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋