im getting married soon with my bf. we love each other frm 8 years.i dont like sex and i have no experience of it. my bf is very emotional and he says that sex is love and one should not hate it. i dont wanna have sex except for having children.i want to know whether my thinking is right or not. im also afraid that if i dont adjust with my husband he may stop loving me. is it possible please guide me.
2007-02-25 19:56:27 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi,
Marriage is all about love and sex. I think, if u r going to deny your husband for sex then he must be going to look for other options. So it is better to have sex with your husband.
It is possible your husband will understand you and have less frequent sex
2007-02-28 22:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by Tejash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you don't like sex and don't have experience of it. Maybe the thought of it puts you off but you have to experience it to know what it feels like. Sex and love are two different things but sex is important in any relationship and I'm sure you'll realise it when you are married. Maybe there could be an understanding between the two of you as far as the frequency is concerned. But if you don't want to co-operate then it is better not to get married because if you cannot satisfy your husband he will look elsewhere and you are definitely not going to like it. It will destroy your relationship and lead to other problems. What do you think of natural child birth? If the thought of that puts you off, are you not going to have children??? If necessary go to a counsellor who might be able to help. Good Luck!
2007-02-26 04:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by AngelEyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your thought of having sex only for having children is wrong.
Your thought that your if you do not adjust to with your husband then he may stop loving you, maybe right, but one cannot be sure of that.
Is sex essential for married life? Well no it is not. There is lot many things in marriage besides sex.
Maybe you could get urself some experience in love making and you may start liking it.
All the best
2007-02-26 04:29:49 · answer #3 · answered by 2_b_or_not_2_b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cut the guy off before you've even tried having sex with your husband? What's wrong with you? It's not dirty, men and women have been having sex forever. And guess what?? It FEELS GOOD(that's why people like it so much), you ought to try it before you drive your husband to a girlfriend or a divorce. You just might like it if you keep a open mind.I'm all for love and closeness like everyone else but I would divorce you in a hot second if I were married to you and find someone who will embrace the joys of marriage and adulthood.
2007-02-26 04:06:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People r expected to indulge in sex only for procreation. Similarly they r expected to eat only to live. But the pleasure of both eating and having sex, as practiced by human beings, has taken predominance over the necessity. U wud be out of the mill if u do not want sex with ur husband except for procreation. Take him into confidence before getting married.
2007-02-26 04:41:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex and love are 2 different things. You said you have no experience with sex so maybe you are just scared. When you get married try it with your husband your first time will hurt but after maybe 3 times if you still feel uncomfortable tell him, if he loves you no matter how upset he gets he will not stop loving you.
2007-02-26 04:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by sjp_amor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is not love but your first time would be the worst time in all the experiences you could have with sex. I think that you should try to look at it another way as just pain. Sex is something spiritual and sexual you are giving something to him even I can't label it but its special its not about the pleasure only there is something else that just makes you want to cry...
Oh yeah now this is different from sex this is love making. I doubt it that his feelings would change in that way yes it would change but he would love you more.
Congrats and Gool Luck!
2007-02-26 04:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a beautiful thing between two people that love eachother. You should not hate it, Im sorry if i affend you in any way. If you dont like sex and dont think you ever will give it some time and spend precious time with ur husband.
2007-02-26 04:10:15 · answer #8 · answered by kissingislovee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is worded in a wrong manner. Marriage itself is an License for having unlimited sex but only with the person you married. So having sex is not a ugly thing dont neglect your hubby for having sex then he may try some other wrong ways for having sex then......
2007-02-26 05:24:25 · answer #9 · answered by Stunner_cool 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a big reason for divorce, or lack thereof. If you feel that way now, than things are not looking good before you even say I do. You say you have no experience of it. Maybe once you do and with a loving partner, you will find that you love it.
2007-02-26 04:15:13 · answer #10 · answered by ஐ♥Gin♥ஐ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋