Why there is a huge generation gap between Father and Son thinking?

Question

Whatever son thinks father thinks vice versa.Sometime it woks well sometime not.There is no continuity in successful decision and vice versa.

Answer 1

I DONT THINK THER IS HUGE GENERATION GAP B/W SON AND FATHER. I CAN UNDERSTAND THE GAP B/W GRANDSON & GRANDPA BUT WHATEVER IS THE GAP B/W SON AND FATHER CAN BE FILLED BY QUALITY COMMUNICATION AND EXPLAINING EACH OTHER. AND THINKING ALWAYS DIFFER FROM PERSON TO PERSON. EVEN THINKING OF TWO BEST FRIENDS WILL NEVER MATCH

Answer 2

We label it as 'generation gap' because it is between father and son. But difference in perception always existed, as for example between husband-wife, design engineers- maintainance engineers, Finance department - engineering department, Auditors-auditees.

Take the first step in solving your problem: DON'T DISMISS IT AS A GENERATION GAP but make an honest and thoughtful attempt to communicate. Keep the communication lines always open.

Please remember:
1) Communication also includes your non verbal communications like body language and facial expressions. Even when you disagree the other side should not feel offended.
2) No two individuals think and understand at same speed. You must factor this aspect in your communications.
3) Don't try to 'score' a point over the other in your communications. If you do so you only breed arguments and bad feeling instead of promoting understanding.
4) Timing of your communications. Talk when he is most receptive.
5) You can include an intermediary whom both of you have respect and who can tactfully moderate.
6) Understand and work on the other person's prejudices, idiosincracies, apprehensions, ego needs, knowledge gap, experience gap, desire for autonomy and such factors.
7)Because of different up bringings perceptions are different.What is 'obvious' to an electrical engineer is not so obvious an Income Tax officer. Intricacies of a situation/ subject need a respectful discussion


It is too big a topic. Pls read some books on communication. I suggest "Principle Centered Leadership".Best of luck but please do not 'generate' a gap but bridge it.

Answer 3

By the time they're passing middle age, men are under the influence of much less testosterone than their younger sons. This doesn't necessarilly mean a better world view, but more often, just a vastly different one.

Also, look at how much has changed in the baby boomer generation. What your parents did for fun or thought about politics and religion in the 60's or 70's might seem rather alien to a son that grew up with video games, Y2K, Southpark, etc.

Answer 4

because the son is experiencing a different world, and the father has experienced the same issues that his son is landing into. The son believes taht his father has no idea about how that world has changed since thse years. And the father after seeing the sons issuesa says to himself, "Hey I've been through the same thing when I was at his age. Seems the world is pretty much the same..."

:-)

Answer 5

It is the cycle- Not son & father alone-It happens with daughter and mother also. Father thinks and compares his past with what his son now has -His restrictions, limitaions in the past emerge as the basic scope of difference.
Days do change and the outlook also changes. AS such there is no generation gap now-a-days 'cause many dads and moms learn to treat children as friends - In the process of 'thinking' , son should also give weigtage to dad's age and experience. and dad to recent days' concept of thinking globally.

Answer 6

Maybe they're too much alike. My son is eerily like me in many ways and if I say the sky is blue, he'll blurt out, "No it's not, it's green!" just to be argumentative. I think part of it is immaturity on his part, some of it is trying to "be his own man", part of it just trying to aggravate me, and part of it is a natural teenage "I know everything, you and mom are so stupid, you just got off the boat from Lake Stupid" kind of thing . Unless it's something really serious, I just nod and let it go. You kind of have to pick your battles. You just hope grows up and eventually realizes that maybe, just maybe Mom and Dad REALLY did know a little about real life.

Answer 7

there is a great gap between father and son thinking because the son will take birth from mom na darling tu bhi na pagal ke jaisa question puchta diwana

Answer 8

because the son has come after a gap of minimum23 yrs

Answer 9

how is it possible to develop a same thinking of two different persons,born at least 25 yrs apart,in different living conditions,different parents,education,social surrounding,exposure etc.

Answer 10

Lack of proper and helalthy communication