Why in a friendship?

Question

Why in a friendship, I have noticed that when we are still young, we deny the ones that is really compactible to become our partners, just to realised later in live that those ones are really compactible to us.. Cant our parents or guardians help in building our future? the question is in the freedom giving to children, am not in the same school of thought who believed that children should be giving absolute fredoom. even in the might of freedom there must be rules of engagement, do's and dont's. punishment, penance and correction. I really thanks God for our british friends, the still train their children based in their culture, tradition and believes, which have passed the test of time. Someone should please kindly help me in telling me why there are lots of divorce in American system while in Britain its just few. Is this a Training Mistake or Tradition or custom mis-interpretatiion? I guess too much freedem is not the best. in all my life time in Africa, I have seen only 2 divorce

Answer 1

Yes, parents should teach their children in a proper manner. Children should be given freedom, but the freedom shold be given properly according to their level of maturity.

When they are still too young, parents should be protective, because those children do not have enough knowledge and wisdom. But when they are grown up, they have to learn to be independent, thus parent should give more freedom. Freedom is OK, but it has the price, i.e. responsibility.

Answer 2

i think one of the best ways to give guidance is to tell stories. Tell stories about your life, about what works for you... It makes it convincing. If you just tell people what to do they fight against it, but if you tell the story of why then they take it in and it changes them.