i have a bf who's 9 yrs older than me. im 17 and he's 26 right now. im now encountering some problems and i don't know how to deal with them. this is one, my dancemates and friends always teases me that my bf is not serious with our relationship, and they always say my bf has another girls. are they teasing me because of our age gap? that it's hard for them to believe that a 26-yr old guy, who's very handsome and popular would fall in love with me? help!
2007-02-25 18:24:27 · 14 answers · asked by cutie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Bad news. I have been 26 and dated an 18 yr old. CHANCES ARE (meaning, you MAY be the exception to the rule) that he is not very serious about you and gets what he wants and moves on. Your friends are not teasing you, they care about you and want you to see through the cloudy love that you have for this guy. You are too young to be having a bf anyway, live life... Date for a while, what is the hurry to be 'attached' to someone... You will regret the good times you didn't have when you are in your '30's.... I know from talking to a ton of 30ish women who end up unhappy with whoever they hooked up with when they were young and 'in love'... Have some fun...
2007-02-25 18:33:39 · answer #1 · answered by Here2Help 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not impossible for him to be in love with you. But as far as the age gap, I would think that he is more experienced on the relationship side than you are. The question is, Has he given you any reason to think that he may be involved with other females? If not, don't look for trouble because you may create a problem. If so then you need not to further the relationship because he clearly doesn't value it anyway and you'd only be opening yourself to pain that you don't need. and besides your young this could be a faze for you anyway, who knows you may not want him in the future anyway. Live life and have fun while your young.
2007-02-26 02:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by msshelene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he can fall in love with you. And as long as he has not committed himself to you or you and he are not engaged he has no obligation to date only you. If he says he is dating only you and sounds like he could be serious start bending the conversation to the serious things you must consider while working up to a permanent relationship....like how many kids would he want, how does he believes the money should be handled in a marriage, could he accommodate you in sex as often as you would want, can you or will you meet his, and he your, parents soon. Do you both like the same activities, like chess, skiing, traveling, gambling, dancing, religion, etc. ...Things that could lead to disappointment, contention and anxiety if not agreed on or compromised before being locked into marriage.
2007-02-26 02:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by syrious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of issues around age or even if you think they may be jelous of you, my friends, my close friends would never lie to me. If they had concerns of a bf having other girls, they'd tell me. Make sure you're not turning your close friends away because bf's will come and go.
2007-02-26 02:29:33 · answer #4 · answered by kiss_tacy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"dancemates", they dont sound like people that you could trust, yet alone take their advice. Dont listen to them because they have their own agenda. As for your friends, you should know which ones you can trust by now right? maybe your best friend will give you an honest answer. If you have a friend youve known for a long time id heed their advice. dont do anyhting drastic though....
2007-02-26 02:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don,t worry about the age gap, if he treats you well that is all that matters. You are 17, enjoy yourself and if it lasts great if not enjoy the moment. Sounds like your friends are just plain jealous
2007-02-26 02:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by judles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...
All the boyfriends I´ve had are much older than me for example...... I´m 22 and my bf was 30....other was 54...
sometimes gys your own age feel jaleous aout it because they don´t know how to get to you....
anyway be careful because there are some really sweet older guys but you can find a nightmare with others.....
just care for what you feel, see and talk to your man..... ask him how does he feels and what does he expect from you as a couple......... usually those things friends say are only to bother you...
and don´t let them make you feel bad about it.
2007-02-26 02:32:02 · answer #7 · answered by cutechick222200 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys that age who are not dating girls closer to their own age and seek out girls your age are "using them" for sex.
You can find out if he is just using you by refusing to have sex with him because my guess is that is why he is sticking around.
He is much too old for you and if I were your mom I would have him arrested and charged. You are still a minor and he is breaking the law and he couldn't have any respect for you.
You need to stop seeing him...
2007-02-26 02:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by Incognito 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe ur friends are jealous best thing to do is to confront him and find out well also he might the type whose all ove any girl so be carefull and dont get hurt. older guys are more mature by they can also be men whores lol so take take thiings slowly
2007-02-26 02:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have some experience:
1-love can't understand age gap
2-may be your friends tell the truth but you can test your bf at some conditions with yourself. be aware your test must be in right way.
2007-02-26 02:31:43 · answer #10 · answered by ahmadan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋