I need advice. I am sick of the continued favortism my mother displays..?

Question

as my sister and I are adults. Even with my kids being much more attractive and healthy, my mother favors my sis's kids and goes on about them. HOw can I try to brush this off?

Actually, my sister hates my mother, even though my mother favored her all these years. That's the sad part about it. I am not saying my kids are better, I am just saying that they are much more healthier and , honestly, much cuter. Seriously. Maybe that is why my mother makes it a point to compliment my nephews and not say a word about my children in front of my sister to compensate for the way they look.

I sent my mother an email. She was holding my baby nephew while I was holding my baby girl and saying all these compliments about my nephew (who looks like he has down syndrom) and not one thing about my baby girl. I am trying to justify it by thinking she is trying to compensate for the way he looks. She always asks-isn't he beautiful? I never have to ask that about my children. Strangers have always come up to me and complimented them.

Answer 1

This is not meant to be a sarcastic answer but it may sound harsh.....Before you can start trying to dig out splinters, get the beam out of your own eye.

Answer 2

My mom has this problem with her mom. My grandmother favors boys. My mom was really in trouble because she was the only girl out of four kids. My mom is 50 and it still bothers her when my grandma bends over backward for her sons but wont help my mom when she truly needs it. The problem now is that my mom has gone the opposite way and out of my three kids she favors my girl. It hurts my sons feelings. I think that this is something you should try to get help with sorting out because it could come up again later.

It could also be that your mom knows they arent as attractive or healthy as yours. They may need more encouragement than yours do.

Answer 3

the only way you can get some kind of resolvement is to talk to her tell her whats going on and how it makes you fell . and if your mother is as stubborn as mine she might let it go in one ear and out hte other i have the same problem with mine except im her only child and she show favoritism over my 16 year old cousin instead of her 20 year old daughter

Answer 4

So you think your kids are so much greater than hers??? How arragant. Looke like you have anwsered your own question, but I'll tell you what I think any way. Your Mom, and possibly more members of your family cant get close to you or your children because of you. You sound like you think you are above it all. Look at yourself before you judge your mom. You may be whats keeping her from treating you and yours like she does the others.