Dilemma!! My 16 year old sister is pregnant how do i convince her that this is a huge mistake?

Question

I think that she would be better off without a kid. She is only in highschool and she has told me that she wants to have an abortion but is scared to tell mom and dad about it. Should i tell them so they will sign for her cause i know our parents and they will not be liking this.

She knows she messed up so if she can't tell it then don't you think i should?

Answer 1

She should really be the one to tell them not you.

Answer 2

Personally, I am against abortion. However, it is her choice and if she would like to have an abortion, then you should see about the laws in your state. I think that girls 16 and over can get abortions on their own without parental permission in some states... it just depends... maybe she could visit a clinic, I'm sure they would know about that sort of thing. Also, do not try to talk her into whatever YOU would do in that situation... But I do think she needs support (which it sounds like you are willing to give, good for you), and I also think she should inform your parents... perhaps you and she should tell them together? She might be more comfortable if you were there with her...

Answer 3

Your sister needs to tell your parents. The sooner the better. The longer the pregnancy progresses the higher her risk of having a complicated/blotched abortion. Offer to go with your sister when she tells your parents. Stay by her side and support her. She made a mistake and she needs to own up to it. Of course your parents aren't going to be happy, but they are still going to love her. Remind her of that. I don't think you should tell your parents, however you can and should be with your sister when she tells them. She needs to get moving on this, the longer she waits the worse it is going to get. Here is a website for more information about abortion. Best wishes to you and your sister. Take care.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/birth-control-pregnancy/abortion-4260.htm

Answer 4

Of course your parents won't like it. And of course she made a mistake. But the only thing to do is go forward from here, since no one can go back. It is not your job to tell your parents. But suggest this to your sister:

Check the internet or the phone book and call a reliable adoption agency. Their counselor can help you through all your decisions. They will not require that you place the baby for adoption, though that might be the best thing all around. Once you've talked to a counselor, approach your parents. Be ready for them to be unhappy, maybe angry, but once they get over the shock they will be glad to hear that you're thinking ahead.

Making an adoption plan will allow her to "be better off without a kid," as you say. It will allow the child a loving home. It will allow your sister to remain in contact with the child and the adoptive family. It will allow a family that really wants a child to have one.

Answer 5

You are correct. She is in a huge mess to be single, pregnant and 16 years old, still living in her parent's home. Someone is going to have to tell the adults because she will be showing in a few months. Whatever decisions she makes about the baby-to-be will have to be made as soon as possible. So, yes if she does not tell them in a week, you tell them and tell your sister to be prepared to face the consequences of her behavior real soon.

Answer 6

First of all you must know this is your sister's decision. If anyone makes a choice for her then she will be resentful to that person forever. This is a Huge life decision that will affect her for her entire life no matter what she does.

The first step is to get her to someone that can support her in whatever she decides, someone who is not biased either way. Do whatever you can to get her to this person. Maybe another relative, a guidance counselor at school, another counselor, someone at planned parenthood, any adult you trust to support her and be unbiased. Once you have found this person and your sister has had a chance to talk with that person let them know you want to talk with your parents. You can even tell them both that you are going to tell your parents. But make sure your sister has a support system first. If she doesn't and you tell and things go bad then maybe she will run away or commit suicide, she needs an adult support system, I cannot stress this enough! Look, I graduated with a B.S. in Psychology and took a term of counseling classes in grad. school & I know what I am talking about here.

Answer 7

Dont convince her to have an abortion thats not very family like, the best thing you should do is support her. She probably already feels bad knowing she made a mistake but 1. she needs to be responsible about it and 2. she had sex now she takes action. My friends both 16 and 17 both have babies and are in high school, they both work also to support there babies and they are doing fine they are both straight A students and both on High Honors and doing great. Support her in what she chooses to do. And she needs to tell your mom and dad not You. Help her in what to say.
Maybe something like this:

Mom and Dad
I know i made a bad decision and you trusted me but now more than ever i need your support and your help.. Im pregnant.

Answer 8

Your parents should know. She is a minor child. And yes, she is better off without a kid. But there are people who are happy, willing and praying to adopt a child. Abortion is not the only answer.

She should be able to live her life and grow up. She messed up, but there is a way out. If she has an abortion, she will regret it all the rest of her life...I knew three who did and they all say that they wished that they had given birth and then given the baby to a good home.

Good luck. Tell your parents. They need to know.

Answer 9

Your sister has huge decisions to make, ones that will impact the rest of her life and feelings about herself the rest of h er life. There are organizations that offer pre-natal counseling for people considering abortions....its not a simple doctor's visit, there is a life inside you and you know it, you feel different...if you expect this to be a one day visit and she gets back to cheerleading, you are wrong. She has enough pressure without you breathing down her neck. You need to encourage her to tell your parents she is pregnant. If not, you have an obligation to tell them because she could get hurt....very hurt. There are times when you have to because of danger...this is one of those times. Not every clinic is legite. Even if your sister chooses abortion, she needs to get the emotional support and the proper medical care to avoid serious damage to body. On the flip-side, early pre-natal care, vitamins and a checkup are vitally important in avoiding birth defects and problem pregnancies..... its time to have a talk and if she wont tell, you do. As for the decision, its not really your place..... she needs your love and support....

Answer 10

OK i found out i was pregnant when i was only 15. i think she needs to take responsibility for her actions. i know it sounds harsh but she knew that pregnancy was a risk of having unprotected sex .my little girl is one now and i am so glad i was responsible. i wouldn't know what to do without her. and about her schooling she can be home schooled or put on home bound from her school she goes to. believe me abortions aren't the way to go. there are people in this world who cant have children i would at least do an adoption not an abortion. i mean what did the innocent little baby do to deserve to be killed?

Answer 11

Yes..you should tell. She needs to make a decision soon! If she wants an abortion, the sooner the better but if she wants to have it, she will need to see a doctor for pre-natal care. There is no way around not telling.