how come every time i try to please my husband i always fell like im doing some thing wrong
2007-02-25 18:13:48 · 10 answers · asked by Jessica B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Doing nice things for your husband should enhance your relationship. You want to show your affection.
Two things are possible.
He out and out throws your gift in your face and you are hurt.
You expect too much appreciation. You only did what you did to make a show of it and you want something in return.
In either case, you aren't getting the feedback that you need. It is time to talk about it, as you will both suffer miscues, anger or resentment.
2007-02-25 18:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should ask him what u did wrong then if u did do some thing wrong he will till u or may be the reason why u always feel like ur doing some thing wrong is because he doesn't appreciate u or he doesn't appreciate u as much as u appreciate him.
i don't know this is just my guess. but good communication between u and him might help.
2007-02-26 02:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you were raised religous it more than likely is because religion has often taught women that sex is wrong until your married and that your not supposed to enjoy it after. If you are not having these feelings because of religous beliefs I would try to think over your past to see if there could be a link with a previous happening.
2007-02-26 02:25:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are doing is like trying to curb hunger with a drink of water. You have to confront the problem and the source of the problem is not the sex. If it is the sex then its not with you. Find out how sex came to be the issue and fix the source.
p.s. the only thing worst than a sexually unsatisfied man, is a lonely one.
2007-02-26 03:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a two way, does he please you too?
Because it seems like you are the only one giving.
Another thing is that marriage is where u are transparent to your spouse. Do not feel ashamed, as long as what u do has not been forced to u to do.
The most important thing do not seek to please alone but rather get fulfillment from whatever you do in a postive way for both of you not only for him.
Make sure there is open communication between you two.
Good luck.
2007-02-26 03:20:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ehh this a really vague explaination so i'm not quite sure how to respond to it, but i believe communication is the key to a strong relationship, and definitely in marriage. so have a talk and patch things up that way.
good luck
2007-02-26 02:18:41 · answer #6 · answered by life's not fair, get over it 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try the 24 hour rule for 24 hours u do everything he asks and says and vice versa u can learn a lot about each other
2007-02-26 02:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mark R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, wat's te purpose of u pleasing him? U do it cos u cheat on him? Or anything tat u know tat is wrong of u to do it? If not, y should u worried abt doing something wrong. Sorry if I'm too direct. Hope it help.
2007-02-26 02:21:21 · answer #8 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what you feel and what is happening are two different things.. ask him if you suck... and if he says yes.. then you have a reason to feel bad..other wise you are like all other women
2007-02-26 02:19:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because maybe you are doing everything wrong. Accept it.
2007-02-26 02:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by heveansent 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋