i feel like I'm mentally getting hurt by my parents.......what do you think????

Question

everyday my perants argue and fight. and my father always blames things on me. he can be in the middle of a argument and just say i did it. my mom and dad argues 24/7 . its a never ending situation. it hurting me mentaly because i have no choice but to listen to it. they fight. my dad lost his job and said it was my fault that he decided to fight my mom. my dad gets drunk all the time and curses me out. my perants wont let me go no where because if i go somewhere they will end up arguring. im only 15 i can only take so much out of a situation to when i start feeling bad. im tired of trying to live through this. my perants barley have money,neither one of my perants will get a job. and i dont know what to do. i feel like crying all the time. im trying to be strong but i feel like im giving up. i feel like all i have is myself. my perants dont love me. ANY ADVICE WILL BE HELPFUL!!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE AND THANK YOU

my grandperants are dead. my grandmother died 10 years ago on my birthday. my family members has about 5 kids to care of and dont have time for another child. my school G.C only deal with school problems,and they told me that.

i have nobody but myself. i have 1 friend who im real close too. but she is really sick rite now. and cant talk or nothing

Answer 1

Dont ever give up on yourself. Your parents love you. they argue alot may be bec they have problems they cant solve. it is not your fault even though they said it was. just remember your parents love you and they may sometimes said things they dont mean them at all. hang on there, good days will come to you once the situation at home is better. Maybe in the meantime if you need someone to talk to, you can approach your grandparents or any other relatives or your close friends. again dont ever give up. take care.

Answer 2

Maybe they will let you get a job. There are two benefits to that 1. You can offer to contribute money to the house which they'll like and 2. you will have time out of the house and away from the chaos.

Also you should talk to a family member you can trust if you have one. If not talk to a school guidance counselor, a teacher, another adult you can trust, or look into counseling (there are places that are free or real cheap). And surround yourself with your own support system as well, friends. The most important thing for you right now is to have someone to talk to. If you feel awkward about it, just do it anyways. It's better than living another 3 years in this situation right?

Maybe if you involve yourself in a school club or volunteer work it'll give you a legitimate excuse to get out of the house.

Answer 3

I've run into this type of situation before. Your only 15 ... things can change rather quickly.. just stay calm and out of the way. It sounds like this may be coming to a head. Remember.. you may get blamed but really it has nothing to do with you. You will find help if you can find an Alateen Meeting to go to. If you look up information for Al-Anon you should find a list for Alateen meeting locations. If by chance you live in an area that doesn't have one you can go to an Al-Anon meeting. There are no guideline that says a young person under 21 can not go..... so go! It is anonymous no one will know you, it's free and it will help.

God Bless.

Answer 4

The situation you are in with your parents right now is definitely, not your fault. Your father sounds like he is suffering with alcoholism and your mother is enabling him to be an alcoholic. They are codependent on each other for the continuity of this disfunctional family relationship. It is not fair to you and not good for your emotional stability to be cursed out and blamed for anything you are not responsible for. If you are only 15, you could tell someone at the Department of Human Services that you need help because you are being abused at home during the fights your parents get into. You could also call the police to document their fighting and tell them you are only 15 years old and need protection from their cursing and blaming you. Try to stay in school and prepare yourself for a job of your own so you can be ready to move out and support yourself three years from now when you are 18. You can also go outside or to a friend's or relative's house when the fighting starts to protect yourself.

Answer 5

You are right the school counselor is limited and the school psychologist usually makes referrals....so I would say, get some help in a few ways: Look up alateen and see if you can go to a meeting. If not, alanon will welcome you and they will give you plenty of resources. Call the local church, talk directly with the pastor or reverend. If you can't make the call, look up your local churches some of them have email...write them and ask them to keep it confidential. The churches have resources and can also help you. If you are in danger, call 9-1-1 or crisis services. You are going to have to follow this up with action.....after you ask for help, follow through. Say a prayer. There are probably opportunities for you to get involved in activities at school, to spend less time at home.... are your parents keeping you home or are you just feeling like you have to be there to stop the fights? You can't control this. You didn't cause it. You can't cure it or stop the fights. It's time to start protecting yourself. So sorry this is your life, but you are young and lots of people have been through this---make the calls, emails, contacts---you can do this... I'll say a prayer for you.

Answer 6

my parents did the same thing till the day my dad walked out and it was the best day of my life and my brothers
my mum was the drunk and dad tried to keep things going and he would just snap and then the fighting would start
try and find a person at school or ask them who to contact you need to do something.
i would say that your parents do love you but have there own problems to deal with
try not to lose hope because there is always someone to turn to
if you get desprate go to the local youth services and ask them what your options are
you can contact me if you want on email [e-mail]
i am in australia i dont know where you are but it helps to talk to someone
good luck and email if you want to talk

Answer 7

You are getting hurt by this..But don't let your parents ignorance distract you.You have got a good head on your shoulders.Try talking to your school counselor,Talk to your Mom,tell her that you love them and that you are hurting.Sometimes parents need a Swift kick in the ***,and sometimes that kick can just be telling them that they are hurting you.As a parent myself,I know that there is no way I would want my child to hurt.Take some of this advise that we readers are giving you and use it where it should be used,for only you know where & when to use it.What ever you do, just remember what ever is said & done its not your fault.Good luck..

Answer 8

aww i am so sorry. i really am. you really need to talk to someone, that's all i can say. trust me, talking to someone you can trust will help you so much. it will take off a huge weight off your shoulders, and give you guidance. as everyone else said, try to find someone you can talk to. please do. and you know what else helps, writing down how you're feeling in some diary or notebook thing. just pour it all out onto paper. i had a friend in a situation similar to that, except her parents beat her. although i am happy to hear that they are not doing that to you. but anyways, if worse comes to worst, and you cannot find anybody to talk to, you can email me. just let me know tho, id rather not post my email on here. but you can honestly trust me, i am in high school like you are and im a girl who's 17. so if anything, just let me know. i really hope the situation gets better for you, nobody deserves this.

Answer 9

Yes, you sure are getting hurt mentally by your parents. You need to find an adult to talk to and tell them your situation. Hopefully some adult who could give you some advice. A school councelor would probably be the best person or even a minister. Good Luck to you.

Answer 10

This is just sad. if i were u, id find any POSSIBLE after school activity you could do. talk to ur mom about this, some high schools offer "jobs" to do such as serve food etc. to lower tuition. make yourself scarce. when coming inside or something, just get straight to what ur going to do as subtly as possible. read, and stay silent as not to aggravate anyone with noise. its all the advice i have. sorry i cant be more of a help.