how do i help her relize he wants her to be happy and live her life
2007-02-25 17:05:20 · 15 answers · asked by HaleighBlackx33 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
give her time grief is different for everyone. why dont you try to get her out and about more
2007-02-25 17:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by toymod 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haleigh, not really enough information. I wonder how long it has been since he passed away? Was the manner of death sensational and does she feel some sort of responsibility?
Grieving as you probably know is a natural response to losing a loved one. For some, it can last quite a long time, and in some cases if it is actually disrupting the functioning of a person, it may require some grief counseling.
Patience and support is the best thing you can give your friend. Are you her "Best Friend"? I am assuming you are, but, just the same; empathy is an important gift to share and give your friend.
Her change and getting over her loss will happen in her time. Maybe getting her out and doing some things with her while saying such things like "let's enjoy life for [I'll call him "Mark"] Mark's sake". He would want you to enjoy yourself.
Maybe helping her celebrate his life more than focusing on his death will help, but, this does not preclude her decision to move on when she feels ready, but, it may help.
Nevertheless; just being there and being supportive is a helpful and very selfless and important gesture on your part to help her through this process. I'm sure she'll get back to living life more fully within a reasonable amount of time.
I wish you luck in your efforts, and hopefully the good and happy memories will prevail and help her to re-engage into living a happier life as the grief process diminishes.
2007-02-26 01:20:10 · answer #2 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't get over the loss of a loved one, you just learn to get on with it. As her friend you no doubt can't stand to see her in this kind of pain and you want her to be the old friend you always knew. I don't know how long ago she lost her BF, but it sounds like she had it bad for him. It's time for you to be a real friend and try to understand what it is like, imagine if one of your parents died, support her, give her all the time she needs and don't try to push her into another relationship. You will only end up loosing a friend. She will move on in her own time.
2007-02-26 09:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how long ago he died, you might need to give her more time, everyone mourns at a different pace and nothing can be said or done to rush her out of that period. It will happen in time, and you can just be there as a friend and support her though this time.
2007-02-26 01:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to go through the grieving process. You did not mention how long ago he died. It might take a couple of years. She could also have abandonment issues that make her afraid to let herself fall again. Just continue being her friend and try to help her let go if she meets someone dreamy.
2007-02-26 01:09:36 · answer #5 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People deal with their grief in different ways, just be there for her and be a great friend. She will realise in her own time that he wants her to move on and be happy. There is no way to force the situation, it will happen when it's suppose too.
2007-02-26 01:09:27 · answer #6 · answered by Panda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how long ago did he die? Death is something that I don't think anyone ever really "gets over". It's a matter of accepting it for what it is and dealing with it. Your friend needs to come to terms with his death and accept it. She needs to realize that she is doing harm to herself emotionally by holding on to something that she needs to release and let go of. I'm sure it's hard. It's hard for anyone to let go of someone they love but she needs to move on with her life. All you can do is be a good friend to her and listen to her and maybe suggest to her some professional counciling. I know in some areas there are also support groups for people who are mourning a loved one. Maybe if she got involved with one of these groups it would help her better cope with her loss : ) Good Luck to her.
2007-02-26 01:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by glittereyedg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say to her, that her b/f will not accept the frustration and despair she is getting and will come maybe in her dreams and pull her to wake up!!! Life goes on and you will never find the releif without GOD help and mercy.
Let her ask the mercy from GOD and to help her to know the right from the wrong.
2007-02-26 04:11:06 · answer #8 · answered by Eshta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant just do the best you can to keep her mind off it. my moms boy friend of 3 years died a year ago tomorrow and she still isnt over it
2007-02-26 01:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember to always be comforting your friend needs you right in time she will heal and sooner than you think she will be ready to move on so just be there for her and put yourself in her situation think about what she is really going through right now she doesn't need a boy she needs a good shoulder to lean on
2007-02-26 01:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by Tasha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has it been? Give her some time. Be a friend and introduce some hot guys to her :)
2007-02-26 01:13:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋