Did anyone ever break up with their girl for a break to sort of their feelings and then come back? I'm pregnant and I think my ex is really scared of the responsibilty..He told me that we just can't work out. He has to clear his head..yet he calls all the time..I know we had our problems in our relationship..Has anyone went through this? Any men ever did this? We had a relationship of 7 years..Since we were 17..I don't know if the baby scared him or what. His dad put him up to moving in with him in another state to take a job. I am concentrated on my baby but I can't help but be emotional over this. 7 years is hard to just forget.
2007-02-25 17:02:14 · 4 answers · asked by angelsdeath420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
In my opinion, he got comfortable with the relationship the way it was and the idea of responsibility for a "family" scares the crap out of him. The fact that his father helped him run from his responsibility instead of talking him into facing it, leads me to believe that maybe he's afraid he won't make a good father as he may have felt in the past about his own father.
The easiest thing would be to say, "he's an irresponsible jerk and to let him run." But, isn't it worth it to at least try, for the baby's sake, to work through whatever those fears are and to reassure him that he is a good person (he must be if you stayed with him for 7 years)?
Try getting together with him, preferably away from his father, and discuss all of your fears as well as his. Maybe even work out a task list of responsibilities for both of you so neither feels overwhelmed and agree to help each other with the fears and uncertainty you both face now.
Good Luck to all three of you!
Karenpa
2007-02-25 17:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by Karenpa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IMHO, you shouldn't waste your time on someone like that. your baby deserves better. if i were you, i'd have a serious talk and tell him that it's now or never. either man up NOW, or stop calling. you need to focus on your baby for now, and hopefully sometime in the future you will meet a man who will love and adore both of you, and not run from responsibility. sometimes life is tough, and we have to do things we don't want to do- tell him it's called being an adult. if he truly loves you, he'll grow up and be with you during this incredible, scary, wonderful, uncertain experience. if not, don't put yourself or your child through any added pain by trying to hold onto him, or letting him be part of your life as it's convenient for him.
congrats on the pregnancy! wish you both health and lots of happiness!! :)
2007-02-25 17:12:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the one to tell you this but if he got you pregnant and now doesnt want to work it out he was using you. Start protecting yourself and your baby financially go see an attorney I am sure he would haveto take some financial responsibility I am not an attorney but you need to check.
2007-02-25 17:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by firetdriver_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone need there space.but since you have been together for
7 years. that not space he need , he just looking at a way to
deal with this baby. and to leave home to take a job in another
city is pretty bad. you need him to be here. , he should think
about this. he has responsibility and he need to step up and be
a man. stop act like a little kid.
2007-02-25 17:08:49 · answer #4 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋