I like to make friends but sometimes people don't show their friendliness? Don't know why?
2007-02-25 17:01:43 · 8 answers · asked by Ah Kiat 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
don't change to impress someone. i once pretended that i was this really great athlete to be friends with this really popular girl, and i ended up falling flat on my face and having had to go to the nurse's office. just be friendly and if that doesn't work out, well, it's their loss for missing out on a great friend
2007-02-25 17:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by Kara A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps because once, they were where you are now, and they themselves were rejected. Instead of believing that they were worthy of friendship, they allowed someone else to define them. Now they are afraid of rejection and have discovered that it's far easier to reject than be rejected.
You have a choice of either becoming like that, yourself, or realizing that when other people don't show friendliness, they have their own issues, which have nothing to do with you.
Continue to be your friendly self, and some people may come out of their 'shells' and some not. Please don't make it your issue for the ones who don't :)
2007-02-26 03:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by Plexed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People these days seem to be almost paranoid about new people in their lives. We have lost the ability to trust and accept others at face value. One thing to remember is that life is full of rejection. However, I have found that something better always comes along. It's a fact of life that everyone is not going to accept us or who we are. Rejection happens in our work lives, school and dating lives. Don't take it personally and try to remember that if this didn't work out, there is something as good if not better just around the corner.
2007-02-28 02:56:59 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each of us has an inner child we try desperately to protect from hurt. When two meet both want to be immediately accepted and feel comfortable with the other. Being overly cautious, a common method of self-protection, is a conditioned response to prior bad encounters which resulted in hurt. So, we tend to protect our inner child by not being open and we even reject others first just so they can't reject us first. You have control over how you react to rejection. You can decide to feel the pain and question your self-worth, or you can be objective and tell yourself that, "Not everyone I meet will like me and that is OK. I may not like or accept everyone either, and that is OK too." The key is to be respectful to others regardless of whether they are respectful to you or not. That way your integrity remains in tact.
2007-02-26 03:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by rico3151 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People are people, they have their own rejection problems, their own fears. Don't take it to heart and figure that it's because of you because it more than likely isn't because of you.
2007-02-25 17:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you put out is what you get back. Treat people in a "friendlier" manner, and you will be treated that way too!
2007-03-01 04:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by Trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont waste time on hateful or conceited people.
2007-02-25 17:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get used to hearing the word no, eventually you will look forward to hearing a no
2007-02-25 21:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋