i dunno why but so many couples said that they dont love each other like how they used 2 because they have kids!
2007-02-25 16:47:38 · 9 answers · asked by mimi ^____^ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have children and they definitely change your relationship. It's sad that some couples decide they don't love each other because of the kids. Children do take time and effort, that in general was focused on the relationship before the kids arrived. Instead of focusing on how things have changed, focus on what brought you together in the first place. Love is a commitment and a decision, not just a feeling. You have to put the same amount of energy (since you can't do the same amount of time) into your relationship with your spouse that you do with your kids. The sad thing is that when the marriage is strong, the children are more confident and better adjusted, so it's not only for the couple to work on their marraige,it's also in the best interest of the children to have a strong marriage. My husband and I make time for date nights. Even if it's an "at home" date night. We put the kids to be early, get a movie, pop popcorn, drink sodas and snuggle on the sofa. We also utilize babysitters (responsible girls from our church) to have a night out at least once a month. By putting energy in our marriage, our children are better adjusted and more secure and our marriage after 8 years and with two small children, our love is stronger than ever. Love can survive, but it takes effort.
2007-02-25 16:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by Susan B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Couples fall in and out of love through out a long relationship, especially when kids are in the picture because a lack of sleep and stress puts pressure on a relationship; that combined with the lack of one-to-one time makes staying "in love" hard to do. Truth be told being in love is a novelty, its nice but it is not what counts long term. If you fall in something you can fall out of it, so if you fall in love you can fall out of it unless under the in and out there is just pure and simple love, which in endless and boundless. Its not fireworks but its true and the fireworks will come back go for a while and comeback later, but it is no fun to watch the excitement of fireworks if after after they are done you will be alone.
If you have love and are not simply in love children will build that love, make it stronger and test it to the max ...lol.. but if you are in love minus the foundation of love then that may be lost.
2007-02-25 17:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by perfection1908 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO that's total rubbish if your relationship was strong enough to begin with no worries but with or without kids every relationship needs spicing up sometimes our daughters have made ours stronger although admittedly the older they get the easier it seems to be lol our family has just extended thats all and become a strong loving family unit all things in life you got to work at nothing comes easy all the best to you hope i helped a little:)
2007-02-25 21:35:06 · answer #3 · answered by clare w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and i just had our 7 year anniversary 2 days before after we were in bed she told me our love is deeper and fuller since we got married. We have 3 kids, constantly yelling and screaming, but we are both there to do our part and help each other. With each of us working together our love for each other grows stronger each day. Its not always easy but our willingness to be there for each other is what keeps everything together.
2007-02-25 16:59:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
While kids are wonderful, they require a lot of work and in most cases it's the woman who breaks her butt to get it done. She is often too tired to give hubby the attention he desires. But if he realizes it, he can assist her with the kids like bathing them, making dinner, picking up around the house and he will have a non-tired partner who appriciates him for helping.
2007-02-25 16:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by Nort 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you lose love. It changes. If anything it gets stronger. Just not in such a "romantic" way, but in a whole hearted, respectful, and admiring way.
2007-02-25 16:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by MISSJIF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say "lose" their love. It just gets put on the back burner for a time.
2007-02-25 18:10:05 · answer #7 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just a excuse for not been so loving anymore, absoutley not true
2007-02-25 16:55:21 · answer #8 · answered by ButterMilkQueso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno about anyone else, but that's not true for me. That's my family. How could I not love everyone in it?
2007-02-25 16:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by Pontius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋