Is it right to date someone while they are still married but are clearly sepparated. What if they have children? Should you stand aside for any hope of them getting back together for the sack of the kids?
2007-02-25 16:46:35 · 14 answers · asked by spongify_92 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am separated and getting ready to date a great gal.I have No intension of getting back with my future ex.
Can't wait till my divorce is final.
It is a trust issue.
Just watch for signs and listen for hints that he might go back to his wife.
2007-02-25 17:09:16 · answer #1 · answered by crazycul1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well in reality you would be dating a married man. Life is full of chances. you take a chance that he will not go back to his wife. But then again you also take a chance that he will stay with you.
If someone starts dating right out of a marriage separation they usually are not ready to date and the relationship will not be a long term one.
If however they have been separated for say a year or two and the terms of the divorce isn't settled yet then this person is trying to move in with there life.
I personally wouldn't date someone if they have not filed for the divorce.
2007-02-25 16:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the matter of it being "right" or "wrong", it all depends on how comfortable you are in such a relationship. If the person is separated - then they are not bound by a promise or a committment, and are therefore not breaking their "vows" by dating someone else. However, you might want to consider the risks of dating someone who may still have an attachment to their past, and might not be fully ready to engage in a new relationship. I would proceed with caution, keeping in mind that I could end up as a "re-bound".
2007-02-25 16:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if by clearly separated you mean living seperatly and proceeding with divorce then no, there is no reason to not date this person.
My adivce is that you don't expect too much from this person because divorce is hard. If there are children involved don't try to become their "parent" or their "friend". Treat them nice and try to look at things from their prospective. You may be an outsider to them. Don't ever talk bad about their other parent NOT MATTER WHAT!
2007-02-25 16:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spare everyone the trouble and stay away. Lots of couples separate and get back together. Even if they don't, most of the time there is too much baggage in rebound relationships, and they don't last anyways.
Find someone who is truly ready to be in a relationship, without the baggage of a recent split!
2007-02-25 16:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by tiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take it a step at a time. Don't have any expectations on where it is going, because there is that possibiliy of them getting back together. Do you want to be the person who gives someone the security of companionship when it might be yanked out from under you.
2007-02-25 16:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happen to us and we mad a contracted that stated that neither one of us would have sex unless divorce papers were served this way we both could walk away neat and clean.
We been marriad now for 16 years and have 4 sons who would do anything for there mother!
She says it was the best thing to know that I was her man.
We are raising our nephew (sister son) now and she gives him nothing but love. She says she would like more kids and we should consider adopting, that she love being a mother and Loves our family.
I love her too , so yes feel if you need a contract make one but separation is never finial.
2007-02-25 16:58:11 · answer #7 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no longer in hassle-free terms men date while they're seperated, women human beings do to. and you're maximum appropriate, they're nevertheless married, and specific shouldn't date, besides the incontrovertible fact that taking area in the employer of a chum could be basically that. intercourse is yet another concern. besides the incontrovertible fact that being sepearated i do no longer see how or WHY a guy might want to alter into sexually intimate with somebody he would not know that nicely,or visa versa. straight forward experience might tell me a minimum of to no longer get that close to to somebody because it may desire to bring about greater of a relationship than one is waiting to be. i think of after a split the two ex companions want some down time to variety of "regroup" in case you will and to get their bearings decrease back. Afterall it may desire to have been years and years in view that they have been relationship and that they could desire to start slow.
2016-09-29 22:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separated is self explanatory.
If you know enough about the guy and you feel he may be right for you, by all means you should challenge his heart. Standing aside allows room for other women to take stock in this guy.
2007-02-25 16:55:52 · answer #9 · answered by dadgonewild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I am concerned if you value your life, I would stay clear of that situation, my mom ended up in prison because my dad was dating another woman after they got divorced and she kinda sorta attempted to murder her.
2007-02-25 16:51:39 · answer #10 · answered by The Librarian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋