i will put things bluntly..i had sex before getting married at my bachelorette party with the male dancer...i was drunk..very drunk and egged on by my friends...i was pregnant and had a son and know it is the dancers and not my husbands because he looks just like the dancer (eyes and lips , hair identical)--well my husband has no clue--should i just not tell my husband? i love my husband and will never cheat on him ever again--i was drunk at my bachelorette party---do you know of this ever happening to anyone else and what did they do? handle it?
2007-02-25 16:41:05 · 7 answers · asked by jen yea 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well.. unfortunately your being drunk and getting naked and doin the dirty with the nearest hot half dressed or naked male just before the wedding then promising never cheat on him again while you've had 9 months +++ to tell him and a child which isn't even his , is NOT going to ease the pain your husband would feel, should you decide to tell him.
Your options are:
1. Don't tell him and save your marriage and child's life , and.. well. live with the guilt. There is always justice though. What goes around comes around. Be careful of this choice.
2. Tell him about it (Honesty is still the best policy, there's NO justifying it) and go with the consequences. There could be 3 possible responses though. He'd either divorce you and abandon the child, or forgive you and love the child as if its his own , or stay on with you and make yours and your child's life miserable. (the 2nd one's a rare chance )
I feel sorry for your situation. But do the right thing and don't be afraid. Whatever is meant to happen in your life is only to bring you to a more glorified road in life.
Good luck.
2007-02-25 16:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by Liz^24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never would have gotten in that situation. Not only did you cheat, but now you're going to let your husband fall in love and truly believe he helped make that beautiful child? Not fair! Remember what goes around comes around, you'll have your share. By the way, it's an excuse to say Ohhh, I was drunk and my friends were pressuring me to do it. You chose the amount of alcohol and opened those unfaithful legs on your own. Grow up and take responsibility, you owe your husband and kid at least that much!
2007-02-25 16:53:54 · answer #2 · answered by reincarnated/beauty 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Get a DNA test and he will find out one of these days and either you will deal with it, or he will find out and leave later. Given the circumstances, I couldn't say he wouldn't leave, but if he finds out himself he is sure to leave because you were not honest with him. Why would you mislead your husband knowing that the child was most likely not his. I'm sorry if I sound harsh, things happen I know, but what happens when he does not see any of him in the child? Men are not idiots. Not telling him can definitely be even more devastating than telling him.
17 weeks pregnant with first.
2007-02-25 17:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't beleive that someone could tell that story so freely, as if nothiing were wrong and like you are not at fault. Furthermore you blame it on the alcohol, when in all actuallity you are always respponsible for your actions. NO MATTER WHAT! Tell you husband, plead with him that your not the whore you once had been, tell him about the kid and hope to whatever it is you believe in that he doesn't spit in your face and leave you on the spot.
2007-02-25 23:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by R. Eric L 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It never happend to me but I wouldnt tell if your husband doesnt suspect somthing then why would you break up your family? People make mistakes and you know a male stripper isnt going to make a good father just keep that to yourself
2007-02-25 16:46:40 · answer #5 · answered by stacie_collins2001 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
good luck
2007-02-25 16:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by KitKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is not fair to keep this from him. He has a right to know.
2007-02-25 16:45:33 · answer #7 · answered by hollilynn 5 · 5⤊ 2⤋