Iam a married man for 12 years do love my wife and 3 kids but recent travelled on work and I fell in love with a 19 year girl and I cannot get her of my mind, I also believe that she loves me too. Should I still keep in contact with her?
2007-02-25 16:16:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ummm thats easy NO. You better work on what you have at home. Do you want your loving wife to leave you dumb *ss and have some other man tucking in your 3 children. you know i am always amazed at how men can cheat and then still only think about their problems. You better hope your wife isnt suspicious and reads what you just wrote dumb *ss!!!
2007-02-25 16:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by sexycat_1984 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Martin:
You are probably having some sort of mid-life crisis or mid-marriage crisis or something similar. Think about this:
If you really love this girl, the best thing to do is let her go. Don't let her be the Other woman; don't let her get hurt in a relationship that won't last; don't lead her on forming an attachment to you that will hurt her in the end.
Then, try to make things work in your own marriage. Why are you feeling this way now after 12 years? Are you taking each other for granted? Do you no longer find her attractive? You probably owe it to yourself, certainly your kids, and also your wife to at least try to make it work. The difference between a man and a boy is that a man stays. He lives up to his commitments. Even if it's hard. Even if he thinks it will hurt him.
You are the father. Your kids look up to you. You must take care of them. A wise man once said that the best thing a man can do for his kids is love their mother. Act out of love.
2007-02-26 00:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lhordaxes 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
is 12 years of marriage and 3 kids worth losing over a 19 year old girl ? she will end up leaving you in a few years if you were to pursue this shes 19 and doesnt even know what she wants out of life yet you took a vow with your wife and what about your 3 kids that dont deserve this my advice is no contact with the 19 year old and maybe you and your wife should get counseling
2007-02-26 00:35:55 · answer #3 · answered by jalyn710@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have always though that real love comes from knowing the person, living beside the person and specially despite you know the person (the bad and good things) you still want to be beside the person....the rest is idealization. You only know the good side of this young baby and you idealize her but you don't know how she is when she got PMS/period, if she smells after a long day, what makes her angry etc...you can't love someone that you don't know, it is pure idealization and I don't know what you think but does it worth jeopardize your marriage and children over a pure idealization?
This "love" you feel for this girl says your marriage is in problems and you need to fix them, ok you get along with your wife but your marrige may be boring and this a problem...you must fix your problems instead of running away to this young lady arms...because that's cheating: not facing relationship problems and choosing run away with someone else...
Cut it off with your young lady, you idealize her and you have too much to loose because of an idealization
2007-02-26 00:32:03 · answer #4 · answered by C6 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ask yourself what kind of person you are...
Some people say they won't begin one relationship until another is concluded, but not everyone.
Three kids and a man in love with your wife.... maybe you know your answer
afterthought:
The 19 year old could always be your lover on the side, but that might stop her from seeking or even recognizing the person meant for her.
2007-02-26 00:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dude grow up you have responsibilities to your wife and children till death you do part and all that i nearly made a similar mistake thank god my wife is TRYING to give me a second chance. If you start anything with this you'll probably be sat on your own somewhere feeling sorry for yourself and lonely in a years time smell reality
2007-02-26 09:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be a moron, you have 3 kids man. Forget this b*tch. You have 3 kids! What the hell is wrong with you?! Damn man, think about your family, if you got involved with this chick your wife would divorce you. You'd look like an a##hole in front of the whole town. You're kids would hate you. Cut this ***** off, end it now man, stick with the sexual fantasies and keep it that way for your families sake.
2007-02-26 00:23:12 · answer #7 · answered by ihatepaulgiamatti 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
of course she loves you, it is called puppy love. she is a teenager. She will most likely change over the next couple of years. Is this girl really worth all the pain it will cause your kids and wife.
2007-02-26 01:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may as well get laid all the rest of the looser are doing it .Oh and hey get some crack with that i hear its more fun that way . And don't worry about the kids they will get a step dad that will keep them in line.
2007-02-26 00:25:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Do you honestly think you are inlove? Or do think maybe its the fantasy of being with someone else, esp younger. take stock of what you have and what you would lose if you were to stray....
End all contact. At 19 she has no idea what she wants to do with her life
2007-02-26 00:20:59 · answer #10 · answered by Suzieq 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋