Okay, my husband is in Iraq, has been since September 4th. We've never had any problems in the bedroom, NEVER, it's always been great. Well I just gave birth to our beautiful daughter in January. Well he's coming home in 2 weeks and he's telling me that he doesn't want to have sex with me. Why? My best friend thinks he's worried he might hurt me or that it'll be different, since this is our first baby. But I'm worried that he doesn't want me like that anymore!
I even asked him why and he just ignored every question I asked and wouldn't even talk. Then he all of sudden was like well I"m going to go, I'll talk to you later, love you.
I don't understand, PLEASE HELP!
2007-02-25 16:03:27 · 14 answers · asked by angelofbeauty415 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It grosses some men out. My friend just had a baby and it has been over 5 weeks since he touched her...So I'm not too sure..
2007-02-25 16:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by angelsdeath420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be something about being worried that things have changed or that he might hurt you, but it might have nothing to do with you to any further extent than you are required for the act. What I mean is the problem may be his. He's been over seas in a dangerous place and that is very stressful. Stress can cause temporary erectile dysfunction, which most men (even with Viagra) find embarrassing. Try not putting too much pressure on him at first (but still let him know you're interested) and maybe start by getting reacquainted and letting him settle into his regular life, getting to know the baby, etc. If after a couple of months he is still doesn't want to, you should sit him down and get him to talk to you about it calmly.
I hope some of these ideas help you if you chose to try them.
Good Luck.
2007-02-26 01:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by C T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing with my first child. My husband would not want to have sex for 3 months following my son's birth. I left him alone gave him his space like he asked when we talked about it and before I knew it he was back ( better than ever). Talk about it with your husband. Communication is very important he is the only one that can tell you why he feels the way he does. Whatever you do don't pressure him. Besides everything your situation is different because you don't know what experiences he has from Iraq. He might need some time to set his emotions straight and move forward. Another thing I suggest is not to worry about it until he is back. you never know maybe when he sees you he will forget about the conversation you two had. Good Luck!!!!
2007-02-26 00:24:54 · answer #3 · answered by estrella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do teach this one in the FRG meetings, I have worried about this also.. When my husband came home the first time it was the other way around I was scared of him.. I would think that is it maybe.. I would go with it dont ask questions, go buy the sexiest thing you can find to wear and make him want you hehe..
2007-02-26 00:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude has seen more death and destruction than most of us will see in our lifetime. This is bound to change a man. Give him some time and quit thinking about yourself so much. Put yourself in his shoes and imagine what it must fell like
2007-02-26 00:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by Joe B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there may be something that he needs to tell you, but is either afraid to or does not know how. War is a difficult thing. I would get counseling, I am sure there are services available there on base if you need to take advantage of them.
2007-02-26 00:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by Chachito 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to say this, but Iraq changes people alot. After seeing so much death, he's afraid to cause anymore pain, and fears he'll hurt you...
2007-02-26 00:12:47 · answer #7 · answered by Megan C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably sees those kids over there getting murdered and its getting ti the poor guy. War does allot of things to a persons thoughts .I'm sure it has nothing to do with you.
2007-02-26 00:19:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he thinks there's a problem when there probably isn't let him come home, don't bring it up. let nature take it's course. i'm sure he'll come around by himself. just don't push him. support him and stay close to him. 35 yrs ago a lot of us thought we had problems like that, time heals all wounds.good luck
2007-02-26 00:10:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's man enough to fight in a war then he needs to be man enough to tell you exactly what's going on with him and why he says this. Start talking.
2007-02-26 00:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋