He hasn't cheated on me but I feel like everyone else in his life will always come first, even if they aren't asking for him. I mean his friends and his older brothers and sisters. He is the youngest.
It seems as soon as things go well, he brings something to disrupt or relationship that has to do with them.
2007-02-25 16:01:58 · 30 answers · asked by so tired 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I told him about a year ago I wasn't going to see his family anymore. Whenever they'd give me grief, it was my problem, what was wrong with me, and make excuses for them etc. With his friends it wasn't much different, in fact he really ripped into me years ago when I told him at home how badly I had been offended by someone. (I held back the tears in public.)I have been too chicken to be in any social situation with him and anyone he likes. Now he's all depressed and blames me for not being able to invite people to join us at a Police concert. "because you hate everybody" We've been married 10 yrs. We have little girl.
2007-02-25 18:50:34 · update #1
I think your ID name says it all...
Good luck,hun.
2007-02-25 16:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's the question you want to ask us!
Will you ever be first in his life!
I think that you will always be first but heres the thing do you get anything from his involvement?
Here's something that you should think about In 40 years god forbid you get cancer will he be there for you? I honestly think the answer to that question is YES he will because look at what he does for other members of family.
Look down the road 10,20, 30, 40, 50, 60 years from to day and ask can I build a life with this person?
You can just remember always make the right choices that inspire you marriage.
Have a happy marriage.
2007-02-26 00:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you feel that there is no more of you left to give and you really had enough then you leave. Before you do please stop this! I am tired of hearing people just giving up on their marriages so easily. If you love him you would stick it out and even have a talk with the family seek counseling you would do it all before throwing in the towel. Just stop! Stop complaining and start acting on making things work out. This is what is wrong with the world today everyone wants to make the bars and the divorce attorneys get rich. Make yourself rich and if that isn't good enough make a therapist rich in getting you guys back together. Work on your marriage or relationship!
You swore through thick or thin so do it!
2007-02-26 00:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who lets whatever it is that he brings in disrupt your marriage? How can anything about his friends and/or family disrupt your marriage? I've been through something similar to this, something can only disrupt your marriage if you let it. As far as feeling like everyone else is more important...talk to him, he may not be the only problem and you may not be the only one with a problem with the marriage. Talk
2007-02-26 00:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by Steel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you dint feel love for this person any more when you feel that there is noting worth fitting for but it is a good idea to talk to him and say what both of you are feeling and go from there. That's all the advice that i can give because i went to something similar but i did not do the correct thing.
2007-02-26 01:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by floresmagie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself "have I done everything possible to make this work", and if the answer is "no", then talk to him and seek help (professional). It does not sound too bad, to be honest. Leaving is never fun though - make sure you really are ready and not just acting on the spur of the moment.
2007-02-26 00:17:25 · answer #6 · answered by Alyssa Macey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to an uninterested third party like a therapist or a counselor before making a final decision
marriage is hard- maybe a vacation is in order (i know we're always more romantic away from home)
2007-02-26 00:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by austin_texan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta talk to him about it first - if you don't feel like you're his #1, then let him know. And you have to decide if you're willing to not be his #1. If you are, then stay with him, if not, then tell him how you feel, and then decide if you want to leave. Best of luck!
2007-02-26 00:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by Sky Watcher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lack of communication skills in here. There is no problem with putting family first.
2007-02-26 00:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by LIZA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to talk to him about it? Communication is the key.
My advice is to have a chat with him and see what the outcome is.
Your not happy with him, so how long will you put up with it before you do something???
Be happy for you.
2007-02-26 00:05:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, maybe go to a counsellor. Try to work it out if you really want the marriage to work. If he doesnt change let him now how you feel and go from there
2007-02-26 00:05:05 · answer #11 · answered by yahoooooooooo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋