Im 22 years old, and had been with my boyfriend for 4 years. We lived together for 3 years and have had a pretty good relationship, we never had any major fights and I thought we were both deeply in love with each other.
However, 2 weeks ago we were at his mates house and after my boyfriend had gone to bed I sat up and chatted to his mate . My boyfriend came out, and i was ripping his mate off about not having any hairs on his legs and I was trying to pull the hairs out asajoke. He accused me of cracking onto his mate and broke up with me and made me move out.
How could he do that to me after 4 years? We had planned a life together, marriage and kids one day and he goes and does this.
Ive talked to him since, but he wont answer any of my questions, but continues to be nice to me.
What do I do? Im completly in love with this guy. Do you think he will change his mind? I dont want to give up on something that was so good. He was my whole life.
2007-02-25 15:55:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am so sorry to hear that. The best thing I can think of is start picking up the pieces and start moving forward. You may even want to get a new hobby or something to take up some of the extra free time that you have. It is tragic that he broke so easy, I am sure there is some reason to it, but it sounds as if he was looking for an excuse to get out and avoid the commitment.
I know it is hard when your world is shattered like this, but there is light at the end of the tunnel and many other men out there that are more willing to be men about their commitments. Just don't push it. Be patient, and you can build it up again. I wish you all the luck in the world.
2007-02-25 16:04:48 · answer #1 · answered by Chachito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you live with him and not marry him in the first place? At least with marriage people try to work things out. If you go back with him, do not move in with him!
I would leave him alone. He probably just got mad and now is not sure. If you start to bug him, it will turn him completely off. Just go about your life. Get a hobby, go out with friends, have fun. Maybe he will change his mind and maybe he won't (kind of depends on if there was an underlying motive). But maybe someday you will decide you like someone else and not want to be with him anyways.
Good Luck.
2007-02-26 00:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like a pretty dumb reason to dump someone! I understand you ave the whole life planned but obviously those have changed. I'm sorry to say but you shouldn't have made him your whole life either. If he won't answer your questions most likely he doesn't know the answers to them. and hey be greatful hes nice to you. I know you are hurt and i know you love the guy but he wasn't so nice when he mad you move out for such a silly reason I say something has to be going on. Sorry but you may hear the I love you like a sister not like a girlfriend line. Sounds like to me somethings been going on. Just take it day by day and see where it goes. Maybe it was just that time of month for him or something. You know when guys get bent out of shape for nothing.
2007-02-26 00:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by Kelsie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry to hear the tough news. statistical fact: those that live together or co-habitat (without marriage) are 2-3 times more likely to end up in divorce or bitter break up.
Next time make a commitment before you actually go investing your years and life into a relationship that has no commitment.
2007-02-26 00:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by calvin_0416 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am weary of the means you 2 broke up their may be a side you do not know yet are you 100% sure he was not cheating on you & needed a reson to end it with you?
2007-02-26 19:23:44 · answer #5 · answered by larry C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, in your judgement, which right now will be a little blurry, do you think his reason was justified? You probably know him best.
If you are going to try and win him over, show him how you think he is better than all other men, for you and in general.
If not, you need to try and be yourself. If he was not the right one, there is one waiting for you. Just be yourself, and you will find this man and he will find you.
2007-02-26 00:05:36 · answer #6 · answered by karasmatic_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time to sort out his feelings. Maybe he was just looking for an excuse to break up with you or maybe he really thought you was up to no good. I know it hurts because me and my bf of 7 years just broke up but all you can do is take it day by day and if its meant to be...it will be...
2007-02-26 00:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by angelsdeath420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lose hope. It appears that your boyfriend has some character and is of stable mind. Try to make him understand. And remember, some relationships are so important and delicate that you have to remember that you have to stay within limits.**
2007-02-26 00:15:22 · answer #8 · answered by bagchianuradha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out and find a real man one that truely loves you that will bring you roses home on payday and tell you he loves you and looks forward to spend time with you . your ex is a fool you should be his bestfriend not some guy i have been married 20 years and my wife is my best and true friend
2007-02-26 00:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by dan m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a true believer in "things happen for a reason". Surround yourself with people who love you. The fishing should be good this year.
2007-02-26 00:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by wanttolpve 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋