So I used to have a bunch of friends, every body liked me, they wanted to hang out with me all the time and party with me, talk to me, I was popular etc. I got a boyfriend and all that slowly went away. It's been over a year now and all my old friends changed (fake backstabbing meanies), and I'm left with nobody. I wish I had friends someone to talk to and hang out with besides my boyfriend. I made a mistake by letting all that go and now I don't know what to do. I don't wanna go back to my old friends, and now that I'm older (12th grade) it's a lot harder making new friends these days, pretty much impossible. What do i do!????
2007-02-25 15:44:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I appreciate you guys that are sayin "email me" because its always nice to have someone to talk to, but i also want friends to hang out with on the weekends.
2007-02-25 15:57:15 · update #1
I live in southern california, not telling you the city though.
2007-02-25 16:36:13 · update #2
I am going through the same problem lol...just look at my questions,..but anyway i shouldn't give advice when i need it..but anyways her is my story or what not...I am in college (community) I have a boyfriend that i have been with for 3 years...and slowly my friends faded because i have a bf..but really you know who your true friends are. I come to realize as the days go by that you should dwell on anything or anybody because most will disappoint.. i hate being a girl..having girls that are friends is just a headache..they stop talking for now reason..or when you call and leave a message they never respond back..ever..yeah i am going through the same thing..people are jerks so i hope you hang in there! if you need to talk just let me know! later
2007-02-25 18:30:10 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find one person you think is cool and start from there. It takes a while to build up a group of friends. I've done it at least 4 times in my life from moving around and other friends that got married or girlfriends and stopped talking.
Its just something you got to get used to. Just in the future try and still pay attention to the few people that you like the most, even if you have a BF.
2007-02-25 15:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess you're not going to make that mistake again. It's pretty crappy of you to have ignored and dumped your friends just because some boy came into the picture.
You can start by talking to people and trying to reconnect with your old friends. I don't think it sounds like they've done anything wrong. They felt hurt that you used to spend so much time with them and then you got a boyfriend and couldn't give them the time of day. This has happened to me so many times and it's just disappointing when you are treated like a benchwarmer bc there's a guy around. It's offensive.
I think you should explain and apologise to your old friends and try to slowly win them back, and ask them about their lives, spend time with them one on one and not just when your boy is around. Also, you can definitely start talking to other people in your classes and in the halls etc. If it's really impossible at your school I would try to make friends outside of school through an interest of some kind.
2007-02-25 15:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by Snow White 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I agree. You have friends here with all of us. Still I understand we can't hang out with you. Sadly this is the time in your life when you find out who your real friends are. You may find that one of your old friends is still a true friend. It's just when you got a boyfriend she/he thought it was best they let you have your time with him. See if you can find out who that person is. If you can't find one out of the bunch start looking for people that will be going to the same college as you. Or has something in common with you. Use that same charm you had then to get new friends. Making friends isn't the hard part. As you know it's keeping them that's hard.
2007-02-25 16:01:31 · answer #4 · answered by quel772o 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi be a friend yourself then it will be easier for you to have friends once you show them you are interested.On the other hand what made those friends want to hang out with you?is it what you had?if so then they are not true friends & ought to make new ones.But if that is not the case talk to some of them & ask them why they are no longer your friends then make a wise decision.
ALL THE BEST.
2007-02-25 23:09:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join clubs that interest you. Then you will gain friendships with people who have similar interests to yours.
Don't measure your life by the number of friends you have but instead by the quality of the friendship.
And beside when you go to college you'll gain a new set of friends on a different level than high school.
2007-02-25 15:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by T esira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could go to a party or a place where alot of people hang out and start a simple conversation with them and it might seem stupid but if you really need friens that's a way to get them.
2007-02-25 15:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by audreyjeromin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to college. Don't worry about the last 4 months of your last year in high school. You'll forget about all those high school dweebs as soon as you get out of there. In college it's tabula rasa for all the freshmen. You'll find new friends quick.
2007-02-25 15:49:45 · answer #8 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could find a church youth group
or join rangers
Join a social sports team
I can't promise that you will make friend but if you try you have a better chance
2007-02-25 15:51:27 · answer #9 · answered by jobees 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its good u lost those old friends....they didn't sound like real friends anyway. You need to go to your interests and you'll meet people there with similar interests as you. Be genuine and honest, don't act or put on a facade to be cool or something....just be you and you'll attract people naturally.
2007-02-25 15:48:37 · answer #10 · answered by calvin_0416 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋