I'm a professor at a college and I am very concerned about one of my students. She writes about her past and how troublesome it was, with friends committing suicide, her boyfriend beating her, and the like. She also writes about how she refuses to see a counselor so to not even try to get her one.
She came to my office hours for help on test preperation, and ended up crying so I held her hand and stroked it gently while encouraging her (I AM A WOMAN) and that made her feel better. Then I hugged her goodbye and she held on to me SO tight.... as if she'd never been hugged before.
The quarter is over in 2 weeks. Should I contact her then, and become a mentor of sorts?
2007-02-25 15:03:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think you should try to be friends with her after the course is over.
2007-02-25 15:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by ænima 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a nice gesture but perhaps you should talk to a counselor on your own for advice. If you do mentor this gal, you'll need your own support system or you could end up doing more harm than good. Plus, a professional could give you a lot of really great insight and suggestions. Good luck.
2007-02-25 23:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me Alone 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
without a dount yes. just don't get real freaky like every time you see her always be like "how are things, are you doing ok? you haven't been in etc etc.... but do ask her occasionally and befriend her at least somewhat... invite her to a ladies night out every now and then or a pampered chef party or something... or even host a small innocent party at your house and make it so that she'll feel confortable and such... i.e. give her a good loving friend, and you will do more for her than anything
2007-02-25 23:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by guitarbuttmunch88 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be nice if you were able to do that. However I'm afraid that you could be crossing the boundaries of your duties as a teacher. It's too bad that you have to think of this when you want to help someone, but it is a true concern.
2007-02-25 23:11:06 · answer #4 · answered by Pinky Lee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, professor D., You need to be careful even though you are female because you could be charged with sexual haraasment as easy as a man could be...that's number one.....number 2....I would speak to the counselor and ask them what they would suggest...yes, you have made a bit of a bond with this girl but you should have a plan to be able to reach her again...I would let some one know what is going on incase you are ever questioned...Number one is you, and protecting you and your profession...
2007-02-25 23:09:28 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Minnie Mouse♥ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Obviousley she trusts you,you must be a great teacher and person,I suppose people make choices in life that no one individual can fix,I think you should remain who you are and let her know that you would be there to help,but dont feel guilty if she decides to make different choices. YOU,already tought her how to make the right choices and do something right with what she learned,now its up to her.
2007-02-25 23:15:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let her know that even after the semester ends, that you would welcome calls and visits from her to talk awhile and see how she's doing. If she follows thru, then you can naturally be her mentor...if she doesn't then it's probably best not to pursue
2007-02-25 23:08:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be great to contact her when the semester is over. It sounds like she really needs someone to be there for her.
2007-02-25 23:12:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that sounds like a good idea.. if she turns u down, then at least u know u tried to help her
thats very thoughtful of u
good luck
2007-02-25 23:08:05 · answer #9 · answered by ☺ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would be very nice of you if you did that. It sounds like she needs somebody.
2007-02-25 23:07:13 · answer #10 · answered by Myglassesarealwaysclean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋