I feel very guilty that I feel like this, and I usually am self-critical.
2007-02-25 15:00:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Anyone who is wounded pulls inward to staunch the flow of blood. Depression is like that. You have to pull away from others because of your woundedness.
2007-02-25 15:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by Makemeaspark 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
NO IT IS NOT!!!! I wish people would quit spreading that kind of BS.
The fact of the matter is that if you are depressed, you DO talk to yourself about yourself very critically, that is the nature of the disease. Its IS a disease, but because it is a disease of our thinking and feeling organ, for some reason we discount the symptoms, which we would never do if we were discussing heart disease, or cancers.
Sigh.
I have problems in the same area....this helped me a great deal. I still have to do it on occassion, but I did this for a year straight, and it helped A LOT! Sometimes, it would take an hour a day to do, but I figured the time was well spent because I was trying to make my life better.
I wrote 25 things every day that were good, that I was grateful for - little things, like having milk in the fridge (because some people dont), a nice sunrise, a cashier who asked about my day. that sort of thing.
Then I wrote one thing that I did for another person - the reason for this being depressed people usually isolate, and I figured this meant that I was interacting with people, and if I did that I had a better chance of making acquaintances, again, nothing big: I offered to get coffee for the lady who has the desk next to me when I went to the cafeteria, I opened a door for someone - that sort of thing....
And then I wrote one thing I genuinely liked about myself - that was the real hard part. Some days it took me half an our to write "I can be funny sometimes" or even just "I am kind to animals"
Then I wrote a goal for the next day - to get me moving on making my life better - again small stuff, like, today mine is "I will email someone I havent talked to in a while to ask them how they have been"
and finally - this is the hardest part - realize that 90% of what goes on between your ears is a lie. At least thats how it is for me. I mean, unless its something factual, like its 19 degrees out now, chances are, I am lying to myself. Thats what we do - we talk to ourselves more harshly than we want would ever speak to anyone else - and we believe it! try to talk to yourself like you were your best freind, have some compassion for yourself, K?
And dont do this alone. We suffer a disease where we believe we are all alone - get some help, find someone to talk to about it, alright? You dont have to suffer, and no one wants you to, k?
2007-02-25 15:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by freshbliss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depression is very serious. You moods are uncontrollable and that may seem selfish to an outsider who knows nothing about depression. Its not easy to get out of the depression. You have to dig deep and find out what, why and where it originated. Once you can face that, it gets easier, but its not a cure immediate. You still have to work on it.
2007-02-25 15:11:00 · answer #3 · answered by wingedladyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be but it can also be caused by a metabolic disorder that your doctor can diagnose. If you're depressed because you feel sorry for yourself, then yes. You're thinking of yourself as a victim instead of taking responsibility for your actions and your life. That's a form of selfishness and can only be overcome by positive actions (in other words, making efforts to correct the situation). You need to stop pressuring yourself and just get busy. Whatever your dream is, go after it and even if you're not perfect at it, you'll have fun and be accomplishing something instead of wallowing in self-pity.
Cheers.
2007-02-25 15:05:28 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me Alone 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Depression has many things about it that don't make sense. You feel guilty, and you think you're being selfish, which makes you feel more guilty. If you think you're being selfish then you probably don't have to worry about it, because truly selfish people don't think of it as being selfish. They think the world owes them extra.
2007-02-25 15:08:28 · answer #5 · answered by Moral Orel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help it so how could it be selfish? Obssesing over a situation can be part of depression, so don't worry; it's probably your depression making you feel guilty.
2007-02-25 15:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by TJTB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only selfish if you are trying to drag others down with you. But I dont think that is what you are trying to do. Now that that is out of the way I reccomend taking as many anti deppresants as humanly possible, make sure your doctor is ok with that. Ask him for the hard stuff too. Whatever it takes.
2007-02-25 15:09:48 · answer #7 · answered by ihatepaulgiamatti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
though i don't have problem with depression I always feel better when I can help others. Would this help you? Can you get out?
2007-02-25 15:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. You can't help it. Sure it does make people feel bad around you,but it's not your fault you have depression.
2007-02-25 15:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by hjrstjrj 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
it's not selfish to be depressed, but when you are depressed you tend to become selfish... your mood is what you choose, and you choose what mood you are in... it's like phsycological/belief
2007-02-25 15:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by guitarbuttmunch88 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋