He left when I was 2 years old. I am 29 years old now and just met him a couple of months ago. He is very nice and sucessful. We all live in different states. I think it would hurt my moms feelings if she knew. What do you think. I have hid it from her all this time. I love my mom very much and dont want to upset her. Is it wrong to just never tell her?
2007-02-25 15:00:02 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think you already know the answer, you know your mom the best. if your happy with meeting you father. i think that is the most important aspect of the question. parents sometime disagree over things that can never be fixed, i would hate to see this develop between the child and the parent. you are face with a hard choice. but the answer is simple , honesty is proper, sooner or later you will let it slip or she will find out than u will compond your problem.
i wish you all the luck , just remember at some point in your life you will have to live for yourself . and other people will need to accept your choice, they dont have to like the outcome. people that love you will aways accept you,
2007-02-25 15:12:25 · answer #1 · answered by sam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly..there is a reason why she hid it from you.. maybe it is just to painful...either way if she hid it for 27 years i doubt she would be very open and accepting to the three of you reuiniting. I dont think it is wrong for you to keep it from her at all.. Start a relationship with your father and keep a relationship with your mother as well. You may want to ask her sometime about him and see what she says.. then decide where you want to take the situation . I think if you said something along the lines of wanting to know your particular ancestory and then ask what your dad did for a career or if he had any other kids, she may open up and voice her opionons of him. If they aren't negative, ask her opionons of you possibly meeting up with him. Either way whatever went down between your mother and your father, happend 29 years ago, build a good relationship with him despite maybe a falling out in their relationship. He was one more friend and angel that has come in to your life... and there has to be a reason that you found him!
2007-02-25 15:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by KOOSE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that it is wrong not to tell her because their relationship ended many years ago and you are their only tie. But i think that keeping it from her any longer will make it worse. What is she finds out by mistake she may be hurt that you felt that you couldnt come to her to begin with. So I would tell her about it and add in that you love her and your love for her will never change just because you have know met your father. trust me i think that this will be better in the long run! Good luck!
2007-02-25 15:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by sexycat_1984 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 23:10:26 · answer #4 · answered by northcut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think she can handle it, then go for it. If you think she can't handle it, maybe you should tell her anyways. Like the rest said, she'll resent you more later on if she found out without you telling her. Honesty and communication is the best keys to a relationship, especially with parents and those that really love you and care.
2007-02-25 15:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by invisiblekisses2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you seek this out? I mean that would be rude. I'd apologize to her for my rudness is what I'd do.
If it just happened, why worry about it. Guess who I ran into?
Don't call him dad --- I mean two years out of 29. He doesn't even qualify. That makes me think you have stupid thoughts gather from TV. A dad is the male person that raises you. Mine was my grandfather. Cool dude. Don't let DNA and silliness fool you.
2007-02-25 15:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that keeping secrets is not the way for any sort of relationship, particularly a significant one with your mom. Just choose the right moment and be prepared if it will be 'bad news for her'. You can handle it, sure. Good luck!
2007-02-25 15:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by Alyssa Macey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going to find out one day. It is better to tell her now, because everyday you wait, the more she will get hurt. I would want you to tell me and I would be happy for you if I were her.
2007-02-25 15:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should tell her i mean i would understand if u were like 14 or something but come on she needs to know that ur a big girl and can handle urself
2007-02-25 15:08:32 · answer #9 · answered by princessvirgo_109 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sooner or later she is going to find out, so she might take it best from you. she might be hurt for a while but she loves you and wants to see you happy.
2007-02-25 15:24:28 · answer #10 · answered by Kristal E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋