I have been in a relationship with this guy for 7 years and we broke up in December and I am really hurt that he would lie behind my back and tell me things are ok in June when I moved out then 6 months later Find him Yahoo Personals. I am so confused I dont know what to do I was so angry with him today and I am still angry with him because a part of me wants to move on but a part of me wants to work things out with him but he wants to date other women. I have a good heart, very honest, caring, giving, not a taker, I do just about anything for this guy I am so confused on what to do. I still see him and go to his house but I really want him back but as of today I am not so sure anymore. He saids he is dating me too/wants to be friends but I dont want to be his friend anymore I want things the way they were before the break up. I want him back so much. I really love him so much but I am really hurt we got into a fight last night and I just dont know what to do anymore. Any suggestions?
2007-02-25 14:43:45 · 11 answers · asked by starrynightbreeze2005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Be honest, do you "love him", or are you more afraid of being alone after 7 years? He's already lied to you, and used you, my guess is you don't yet know the whole truth.
Do you want to spend the rest of your life as a DOORMAT?
Because, if you go back to this guy now, that's all you'll ever be to him.
Don't mean to be rude, just can't think of a gentler way to convey this message. Don't walk away, RUN!!
(The bonus of this behavior, if you have any chance of a good relationship with him, it will ONLY occur with Him pursuing You.)
2007-03-05 10:09:00 · answer #1 · answered by spam_free_he_he 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an ordeal...
Seven years is long enough to consider you as real couples...
In that context, you know what REALLY pleases him...Things you do..Things he does...Things you share...etc.
Just try to bring these things up somehow your own way...This may make him remembers the GOOD OLD DAYS...
He has absolutely no right to treat you as such...
I wish not to say bad words on him because I know you LOVE HIM SO MUCH...but he deserves to be described as an A S S
H O L E leaving you in such a way after so long...
Don't be surprised with what I'm going to say now, but you will see to it that it works...
Stay away from him for some time...
Keep the distance between the two of you until he gets enough
Don't show that you are ubset at all
Tell him straight he is at his free will to do what he likes...
Let him read it in your eyes..that you are seeking your own way...
Let him believe you have a relation with some one...
Tease him to the best of your capabilities...
Let him hear you talking to some one the way you used to talk to him...
Pretend lie nothing has happened and dry up your tears completely...
Let him feel you became a different person than you were with him...
Let him understands you are a better person without you...
YOU KNOW WHAT I AM GETTING AT...
YOU ARE THE FEMALE...YOU CAN KILL HIM WITH THESE DEEDS..
Eventually, he will seek you like never before...
Be good honey, and don't care less for what has happened...
He will come back to you...
2007-03-05 13:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by FOREVER AUTUMN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take you time to realize that you and this guy are just not meant to be.
He looks even more interesting to you now that he's dating. You want him back to the way he was before and you know, and everybody in the world knows - that just never happens!
So accept that fact, as hard as it is.
You're left with a hurting heart. This makes it hard to take advice that is reasonable and that you know makes sense. Do you enjoy that heartache? Are you in the cycle of aching and reminiscing and struggling and getting your feelings hurt? Then do yourself the biggest favor you can and force yourself to start dating - a lot! The tide will turn and you will find yourself enjoying dating. This guy and all the problems attached to him will look less and less attractive to you.
Be good to yourself that way.
2007-03-03 21:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship after a long term relationship never works out their are too many strong feelings involved. I know this is not what you want to hear but you seem like a very good person;maybe your better off without him. I am sure their are alot of guys who would love to go out with you. PS: Just have fun life is to short to be worried about that!!!!!!!
2007-02-25 22:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by Breedlove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats awesome. He can go out with you and date other chicks and keep comming back to you! What a great setup.
Can you see the sarchasm? Get over him and move on, unless of course you like girls and dont mind if he does too.
2007-02-25 22:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you, I did it for 10 yrs. Happy to say I met my husband with in 1 yr engaged and 1 yr later married. Forget this guy. You wasted 7 yrs. The problem is you are not in love with him but in love with the idea of happy ever after. It hurts but he is not going to marry you. My X after 10 yrs married someone Else after dating her for 1 yr. I look at my husband and think thank God I moved on. I found my prince and so will you. Trust me it's not your X.
2007-03-05 13:07:29 · answer #6 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not gonna wanna hear this but you just got to forget about him and move on he already decided he wants to date other women and that does not include you..He probably has already started, just dump him he isn't the only fish in the sea..
2007-02-25 22:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, you say you have a good heart and honest, careing.... why waste it on a loser? there are so many more quality men out there that will treat you right! ditch the dodo and find yourself a REAL MAN!!! =)
2007-02-25 22:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by danuh_bananuh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK HIM THIS OK DO YOU LOVE ME I MEAN REALLY LOVE ME FOR ME AS ME AND NOT FOR WHAT I CAN GIVE YOU ARE DO FOR YOU AND IF YOU LOVE ME THEN WHY DO YOU LIE TO ME THAT ISNT LOVE THATS WHAT WE CALL MISSTRUST BETTER KNOWN AS MAKE BELEAVE AND IF HE LOVES YOU AND YOU REALLY LOVE HIM THEN YOU AND HIM WILL BE ABLE TO WORK THROUGH THIS ARE THAT AND ANY PROBLEMS AND MISS UNDERSTANDINGS THAT MAY COME ALONG CAUSE LOVE HAS NO BOUNDERIES AND HAS NO LIES ARE FENSES AND IS TRUE TO THE T.AND ISNT BASED ON LIES OR MISS TRUST I HOPE THIS HELPS THANKS.............
2007-02-25 22:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by Popeye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been recieving some good advice so far, there is only one further comment to that, for petes sake , TAKE IT.
2007-03-04 20:18:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋