OK here i do i am nineteen years old dating a twenty eight year old he is the best i have ever been with he treats me right he helped me find a job that i sooooo desperatly needed. He does thing for me nobody else has done before or even thought of doing for me. He is an Mp in the army and is goin to be deployed to iraq in may. He was married for five years and out the blue his wife told him she wanted a divorce. Which really really threw him into depression. but then he met me he is still going through the divorce it is hard because he lives here in the us and she lives in germany. and he still in love with her i think madly but i am not sure . I just got out of a realtionship where the guy lied to me about his divorce majorly and i am afraid i might go through it again with him. i know he still recieves letters from her and text messages and they still call each other and i don't my heart broken again if anyone can understand what i am trying to say please give me some advice.
2007-02-25 14:40:09 · 6 answers · asked by kryptonitegirl2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
thank you for the answers but maybe i should add more i will ask him some question and trust his answers but he told me on valentin'es day ( by then we would have been dating for 3 months) that he had been able to be happy again when he was around me i know it's not all about sex because we barely ever have it which bothers me none at all we would rather spend time together working on his beat up mustang maybe this help get answers
2007-02-25 14:51:36 · update #1
Patience is the answer. Of course you don't want your heart broken--but you're already in love with him, so if you left him now it would break your heart already. Stick around. Keep alert, keep all lines of communication open, be honest with him, make it clear you expect honesty from him. Be kind and supportive. Time will tell where the relationship is going, so give it time.
2007-02-25 15:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop dating guys who have been threw divorces... If he is still married what does that tell ya? He isnt no saint, is he using you for sex, comfort? until he patches it up with his wife? If you care for him you need to sit him down and ask him what is going on?? Maybe you need to be the bigger person and leave until he figures out what he wants to do in life, stay married, get a divorce what? STOP being a door mat for this men..
2007-02-25 22:45:51 · answer #2 · answered by Alexis221 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen, the only way to get through this is with a trust factor. If you cannot trust him than it is not worth it in the long run. You have to talk to him about this and try to believe what he is saying is true. The man obviously has a lot of baggage on him and he most likely needs you to break out of his apparent shell
2007-02-25 22:46:23 · answer #3 · answered by mike m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably cheering him up right now... but mostly as a distraction. I don't want you to get hurt more, so I am being honest.
He needs to be truly apart from his wife and over her before he could date or commit to anyone else. Everyone just wants to move on right away but it those rebound relationships are always band-aids that fall off. Sorry honey, he's not the one.
2007-02-25 22:45:22 · answer #4 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is still texting his ex i would just be patient and if it keeps going on i would leave him because maybe he does still have feelings for her. Why don't you ask him
2007-02-25 22:45:19 · answer #5 · answered by baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u must wait 4 it if u love him.
2007-02-25 22:44:05 · answer #6 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋