I've always concidered myself as a good and honest person.My boyfriend went on business away for 3 months and 2 or 3 days after his home-coming,by the time we already had once sex, he told me that he was cheated on me with his colleague(I met her before the departure) and subsequently I understood that she expects him to leave me(they were together for about 2 monts and we have been together for 2.5 years). Although I suffered very much and he said that he was sorry for what happened and he decided to stay with me,he didn't want to hurt her feelings either, and several days he was going outside for about 20 min. to talk to her by the phone.Since then passed almost 6 months- we are day and night together and everything is quite nice between us but than these dark moments overtake me and I start to imagine how I cause her pain in one way or another.And when I imagine things like that i hate myself.I just want her to understand what pain she did to me.Am I a bad person?
2007-02-25 14:39:42 · 8 answers · asked by Annabelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are not a bad person and you have serious issues that need to be addressed with the help of a competent and caring person. A marriage counselor would be a good start - if your husband won't go, go yourself. You have some hard decisions ahead of you, and it wouldn't do to undertake them without professional help. Don't worry about the other woman - time generally wounds all heels, and she'll get hers eventually. Take care of you - you're worth it!
2007-02-25 14:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not a bad person. You just need to decide if you can really ever forgive him for this. She is not really the person you're mad at. If you really want to get over this you should probably get some counseling in order to find out what it's going to take for you to really let go of it. If you don't think you'll ever be able to then you should probably end it - it doesn't make you a bad person. It wouldn't be fair to either one of you to stay in it if you won't.
2007-02-25 22:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by :) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not a bad person, it's normal to want someone to suffer the same kind of pain that they caused you, human nature. But I would suggest leaving it at that and not actually doing anything, thinking about it is fine acting upon it = bad news
2007-02-25 22:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by Kristal E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you're not a bad person. Your a normal person who feels hurt, and no one wants to be in pain alone.
I would keep an eye on your boyfriend if I were you...
2007-02-25 22:46:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kaitelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing to her -- the affair was between her and your boyfriend, you have no responsibility.
I'd advise a clean ending -- don't bother thinking about talking to her, and make sure he doesn't either. Just let it go, so you can both start to heal.
2007-02-25 22:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by Jarien 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The thing is, you have a big heart and you followed it. That was not your fault, but you need to go back and correct your mistake, starting with changing your man. Dont date him anymore.
2007-02-25 23:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
y r not a bad person really i tell you u did nothing to her he is the one who made a mistake and he saied sorry andkeep on you r/p on what is in yor hand fist
2007-02-25 22:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by mttttttt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a bad person.Probaly you bf is the evil person.
2007-02-25 23:20:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋