Because he thinks it will mess things up.We get along great and haven't even had a fight all this time.I was thinking about buying a ring for him and asking him to marry me on our 2 year anniversary.What do ya'll think?? we've been living together most of this time.I really love him and I know he loves me.Seriously, would I be messing up a good thing ??
2007-02-25 14:38:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if you get along that well you wouldn't be messing anything up i think it would be a good idea for you to get him a ring I think you would be making a good decision
2007-02-25 14:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by baby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself what you REALLY want. Deep down in your heart. Where do you want to be in five years? Married with children or living with a boyfriend? Once you know what YOU want the rest is simple. Tell him and ask him if he wants the same. Give him some time to think it over. If you are both on the same page great! If he wants to have milk without buying a cow - walk away. Don't waste your life. If he really loves you and wants to be with you for life he will pop the question. I am old fashioned and I don't think buying him a ring is a good idea. Decisive answer yes or no from him will clear your situation and help you with your final decision. But make it YOUR OWN. Good luck Honey :-). By the way... Marriage is not messing up - it is setting record straight - we belong together!
2007-02-25 15:06:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that now its your turn to decide on what you want out of life. You have to ask yourself if you want to be with someone for the rest of your life and not get married to them. Do you think that you could live with someone he rest of your life and not for a moment remember that perfect day that was your wedding day? I think that it builds a relationship when you are married and if I were you I would ask him why he doesn't want to get married and also tell him that it is a dream of mine since I was a little girl. Every little girl has this dream and I know that you had it too. No matter what ask him why and if you find that he is giving you an answer that doesn't fit the bill then you know he isn't worth it. But warning you honey there is no excuse for this. If he says that he hates it because it is damaging tell him that the air we breath could damage us or even kill us. You see there are things in life that women want and dream of. I think that you should find out what is going on inside there instead of him just saying that he doesn't and you not knowing why. You deserve to have all your dreams come true.
Good luck!
2007-02-25 19:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you afraid of getting regetted? I know that you really love him but I donnot understand why he doesn't want to get marrried. My husband and I got married a year and a half after we got together. I am telling you this because, if you are in a relationship for that long, and you 2 are living together then what difference does it make whether you 2 are married or not. It is just a piece of paper and a little piece of jewelry that makes your relationship different. He needs to get over his fear. If you really think that he will say yes then do it. If he rejects you then he will always reject you. Good luck
2007-02-25 14:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by raemom05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight... He always talks about NOT getting married and you want to buy a ring to ask him to get married??? I think you might want to have a long talk with him about how you really DO want marriage. Be as honest and straight forward with him as he has been with you these last two years. You are wasting your time and his too if you don't speak up and tell him you'd like to be married at some point.How much of a good thing can it really be if you both have different long term goals?
2007-02-25 14:49:37 · answer #5 · answered by chicklette0008 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think he is saying this because he doesn't want to get married. It's no big mystery that men say what they mean. Buying a ring is going to freak him out and he might just run the other direction
2007-02-25 14:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to want to get married. Don't spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you. I am just hoping that he is not making lame transparent excuses about marriage to cover for the fact that he really doesn't ever see a future with you.
2007-02-25 14:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by Alyssa Macey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is seriously set against marriage and you want to get married one day, than maybe he isn't the one for you. Ask him. It won't hurt. At least then you will know his true feelings about it. Best of luck!
2007-02-25 14:42:55 · answer #8 · answered by vmarie84 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage had not thing mess thing up or good thing its make me feel he waitting for something better to come along marriage is about security and trust and a life time commitment then went you have kid where do they fit in at or are you plan not to have any there is reason to get marriage good luck
2007-02-25 14:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you would be messing it up. You're all ready living together and as long as he loves you and is faithful to you might as well consider yourself married. Don't push him into some thing he's going to resent.
2007-02-25 14:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋