I have always had a fantasy about a threesome, and although I am female I think I would like it more with another female than a male. I guess I won't know until I try. My husband has also recently mentioned this althoug I think he might be joking. We are planning on talking about this more. If we do decide to take this step how would u go about finding the other person. I don't think I would want it to be a friend but I want to know the other persons sexual history etc and make sure that they are safe and with no unwanted side effects such as STD's. Anyone ever did this please answer. How would you go about finding the other person?
2007-02-25 14:21:30 · 20 answers · asked by baby j 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is definitely better if it is a friend. My advice - lay down ground rules beforehand (i.e. who is comfortable doing what with whom, etc.) - trust me this will help. Involving a friend can help make it less awkward.
P.S. Don't listen to some of the previous posts - my boyfriend and I had a threesome with a mutual (female) friend and it definitely did not ruin our relationship. As long as you can openly discuss it and be absolutely certain everyone is comfortable with it, you should be fine. :)
2007-02-25 14:26:36 · answer #1 · answered by ~Christine~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends a lot on where you are and what you are looking for. I agree that a friend is not a good idea, why risk loosing a friend over possible stupid complications? You are very unlikely to find a bi-sexual virgin willing to take part in your experiment so anybody you do find that will be interested is going to carry some risk of STD's. If you live somewhere where prostitution is legal they will normally have some health check requirements. If not, some cover organizations for prostitution such as night clubs, massage parlours, strip clubs etc. will have their own. Maybe finding a professional at one of these will be an option. I suggest that you make the search part of the game and you and your husband go to a night club known to you looking for candidates. In general you should steer away from street prostitutes since they are normally on the street due to other problems.
In reality the game of trying to find a candidate is much more fun than the reality of finding one.
2007-02-25 22:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by John B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is some great information from The Swingers Board Swinger Advice section:
How do we meet others who are interested in the lifestyle?
There are several ways to find others interested in swinging. The two most prolific ways are through personal ads and swinger clubs. On our Personal Ads page you will find several great sites for swingers personal ads. All of which will allow you to post your own ad for free as well as allow for limited free browsing and answering of others ads. You can also check out our Club Listings for info on clubs near you to visit and meet other like-minded couples and individuals.
Why is it so hard to find a single female to join us?
The answer to this question is fairly simple; supply and demand. There just aren't many single females in the lifestyle. Most females that are in the lifestyle are half of a couple and many couples don't like to split up to play. The other side of the problem is that single females (bi in particular) are the most sought after portion of the swinging population. While there are more than enough single males to go around, most single females either don't know about the lifestyle or just aren't interested. Most of those that are involved in the lifestyle were brought in by a previous boyfriend or husband.
So are the couples who want a single female completely out of luck?
Don't give up, and consider opening your options. If you are looking for a single female to play mainly with the female half of your couple, then perhaps you could look for a couple with a bi-female and a husband who doesn't mind watching. But remember, this won't be fun for long... eventually people start to feel like they are being left out, of course that doesn't mean you have to swap partners. You could always let the women play together then when they are done the guys can enjoy their own partners. However, if you are looking for a female so that you can have a threesome, then you will just have to be patient. It happens but you may have to wait a while. The best advice I have heard when it comes to finding a single female is to look at those single females that you already know. It will be much easier to talk to a friend and possibly get them to join you for some fun, than it will be to find a stranger. Also, if you are an out-going couple you might consider just checking out the local night clubs you may find a female or two there willing to go home with you for a night of fun.
I hope that helps.
2007-02-26 11:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its kinda hard to find someone dispite what you may think, You just kinda gotta hang out places where you can meet new people and be open enough to talk about sex as soon as you meet someone. Also, make it a priority to all go get tested together before anyhting happens, saftey is the most important thing. I generally meet girls at parties I throw at my house, seeing as things always get crazy and people are willing to be themselves with out being afraid of whos watching, but I guess you find a club to go to, or something like that. Good Luck, and be safe:)
2007-02-25 22:29:49 · answer #4 · answered by ashleynicole452 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust me, choose a friend. I've done the threesom thing a few times, but always with a second guy - guess your way could be fun too though, however a man usually has a challenge satisfying ONE girl let alone two!
2007-02-25 22:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My wife and I have had a few. It has always been best for us when it was one of her friends. At any rate, you take the responsibility of finding the other person. When he does, it brings up too many questions.
2007-02-27 09:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never did anything like this and i think you would be better off (no offense) going to a gay club and meeting a friend their and getting to know that person and just be patient and find out about themand learn about them
2007-02-25 22:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep in mind that when a guy does this he is "A Horny Guy", when a woman get into it, she is a "SLUT"
Don't do it, It shows no respect for your self or your Husband.
Make your sessions with hubby more intimate and loving and a third person will create a crowd.
Good luck
2007-02-25 22:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by Nort 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not to hard to find someone. Enjoy it, it will most likely break up your relationship as it will create jealously and resentment. If you did come into a relationship with that kind of openness, it is damn near impossible to change that.
2007-02-25 22:27:39 · answer #9 · answered by oshaberi27 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try posting something on Craigslist.org in your local town. Be careful and good luck.
2007-02-25 22:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by RodneyRowland 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋