Was I in the wrong?

Question

I just got back to Drum area on the 16th of Feb. I asked my friend to
pick me up from the airport. Well, she did and she offered me to stay
at her place for a couple of days. Well, since my husband is deployed
he wanted me to buy him a computer which I did and I asked if it could
be sent to her house. She said yes... well we got into a disagreement
over the dang heater in her house (house doesn't need to be almost a
100 degrees inside). Well, I tried to change the shipping addresses but
it was too late. I checked the status on it 3 das after i ordered it
and it said that it was delivered. I called her 4 times that day. I
called her 3 times the day afterwards and left her a message. She
called me back and told me that I couldnt pick it up. Then this morning
she left me a IM and told me that if I wanted the damn computer to come
get it... I went to go get it, knocked on the door, she answered. Not a
single hi how are you or anything.. she grabbed the computer and threw
it at me and slammed the door in my face. Was I in the wrong or
something? Now everyone thats with my husbands knows the story but how
true it is I don't know.

This is the truth!
Patty

Fort Drum, NY

Answer 1

You got into a fight about the heater and it ended up like this?

She was probably hurt that she invited you to stay with her and you ended up complaining about it. I think you should apologize and tell her that you don't want to lose a friendship over the temperature she keeps her home!

Don't bring up the computer stuff... if she accepts your apology then let that be water under the bridge.

Answer 2

I barely understood this story.

Here's what I could glean:
1. You stayed with a friend after your husband went overseas
2. You and this friend disagreed about the internal temperature of her home.
3. You ordered a computer for your husband to be delivered to her home.
4. You changed the temperature of her home and it made her angry enough to throw you out.
5. You attempted to reroute the computer to a different address but could not manage it.
6. Your friend refused at first to let you get the computer
7. She seems to have felt bad about the computer and did not want to steal it so demanded you come pick it up.
8. She acted like a 4 year-old with a temper tantrum and threw the machine at you.
9. You came onto the internet and complained about her.
10. Apparently everyone your husband knows, also knows about this story.

I think both you and your "friend" made a lot of bad decisions. No one is right in this particular exchange.

Answer 3

Bottom line is ; "It was her house ." How would you like it if she came into your house and told you, your house was'nt hot enough? Would you cut the heat up ? Nooo! Why ? cause it's your house. I hope you can get up the courage and apologize to her. One thing I know about friendships is ; they are just like any other relationship , we have a fight we make up we grow stronger.I think your friend is worth keeping . And there will be more fights yes .But there will be way more Love.

Answer 4

Give her time to chill maybe you were both a little flustered at living together you know her intentions were good but let's face it sometimes living with someone a while that you normally wouldn't can cause friction although she did react badly hopefully after a while you can make-up good luck

Answer 5

I think you were not in the wrong and just because you complained about her heater I think there is more to the story than you may know but you will never know because she isnt talking to you. I think maybe your friend is overly sensitive or may be going through some things herself.

Answer 6

Who on here knows who was right or wrong ?? We do not know how you spoke to her or how she spoke to you during the heater fight...... If you were rude and disrespectful in HER house then YES you were wrong, but if it was her, then she was part wrong, I say part, because it is HER house...... you have the computer now, so just back off and let her cool off, maybe call her in about a week or so and APOLOGISE !!!!!!!!! God bless

Answer 7

Shes probably just frustrated over something. Give her a few days and if she doesnt straighten out, take her out for coffee or something. And I dont think your wrong, you really didnt do anything to diserve such child-like behavior. Thats my 2 cents! [=

Answer 8

She was showing hospitality by letting you stay with her and you complained about how she kept her house. As a gust it shows verry poor charachter to complain when someone is being hospitable. I recommend you apologize if you ever charished your friendship at all.

Answer 9

Well, it's just a heater...if you wanted, (even tho i don't see how you're wrong, but just to make her happy...) you could apologize, just to make things good between you two.
Also, take her to a sauna or something...if she gets too hot, she might learn to turn down the heater.

Answer 10

OK, what? Look, she's being a little crazy, okay? If she's going to be a jackoff like that, then so be it! Sue her if you got hurt... but maybe you should talk to her first? Could be a misunderstanding, ya know?