Yestarday my friend got into a snomobiling accident and died instantly. Me and my friends heard later that night and cried the entire night. She was not our closest friend, but she was an amazing person. She never lied or talked bad about anyone and she was always happy, soooooo happy, even when her home life sucked. She always brightened up the mood in school. She was sooo young, only 13, and definatly didnt deserve to die. She deserved to get treated with MUCH more respect than she did, but none of us (us being her "friends" and other peers who made fun of her) realized how much of a GREAT person she was until she wasnt here anymore. I feel so pathetic. I tried to be happy today but it was immpossible. I went in and out of crying spasms and... just need a way to let go of all my sadness and anger. I wish I could have done more for her, but its too late now. I wanna feel better and do someting for her, but what?
2007-02-25 14:19:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Go call the family and ask if you can help them with anything.
If you're feeling this way, imagine how they would feel.
And cry.
But always, always remember what a happy person she was and how she would want you to be - happy.
Visit her grave too. Leave flowers, or anything she liked. And tell her how you feel.
<3
2007-02-25 14:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's too late to do anything for her, but her family might like to hear what you just said. So maybe you could organize a group of kids at school to sign a huge homemade card for the family and everyone could write some really nice things then someone can take it to her parents or grandparents or someone in her family who cares.
But what you can do to make yourself feel better is to start taking a stand when you see someone who maybe doesn't have many friends. Invite the kid to sit with you at lunch or talk to her in class when other people are being rude or mean.
Stand up for the kids who aren't strong enough to stand up for themselves. Even a simple smile can really make someone feel way better about themselves.
Just be a good person. You will know in your heart when you're being good.
2007-02-25 22:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by ssssss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its unfortunate the things that happen in our lives. Remember everything happens for a reason and with every trial and tribulation you grow and you learn from it. It makes you the person that you are. Use your friends passing as one of lifes lessons. You never know what could happen tomorrow...so the next time you feel like putting someone down or you see someone else putting another down...think of how you feel right now. Stop it, Change it, Do something about it. Your gift to her would be living your life for her. She was so young and didnt get the chance to enjoy life....you do.
2007-02-25 22:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by CORISSA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really believe that if you talk to her,,she can hear you from heaven.It is so sad to loose a friend or family member.Our best friend was killed in a car accident when someone ran a red light.And my brother perished in his sleep suddenly.I still cannot believe that they are gone.Other friends & family members are gone now also.It is so hard.You really never forget but eventually you learn to move forward.Be strong by being there for those that need you,,like the girls family.Hold their memory in your heart forever.
2007-02-25 22:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your school is offering grief counselors, I would take them up on the opportunity to talk to one of them.
Regret after a person dies is very common and very hard to come to terms with, because you can no longer make amends to that person.
I would say, try to emulate the things about her that made her a wonderful person. That would be a great testament to her life, if she changed those around her for the better.
2007-02-25 22:24:24 · answer #5 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry,
I wish I can think of something special for you to do for her
other than remember her, maybe you & yyour friend can come up with some sort of idea on how to make snowmobile safer
I heard of a lot of accident that happen with snowmobile
Make a fun on her name (make little angel pin wiht her name & sale them around the school & give the proceed to charity
visit her grave weekly and bring flowers
God Bless
2007-02-25 22:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sadness and anger will be with you for a while. It's okay. It feels terrible, but it's okay. Continue to talk to your friends and family about her. Remember what you liked best about her.
Something that will help you feel better, and comfort her family too: write a note to her parents telling her what you liked about her, how sad and shocked you were when she died, and how proud you are to have been her friend.
2007-02-26 00:19:37 · answer #7 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg that is so awful I feel your pain I so wish you the best, You shouldn't blame your self or your friends but I know how you feel. You shouldn't feel pathetic at all the only feeling you should have is sadness. I am really sorry about your lost.
ps: hope u feel better
Jewel T
2007-02-25 22:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for her is to make sure you treat all people better in the future. If you do that, her smile will shine upon you each time you do it.
If you treat people with respect in the future, you will never have to feel as you do tonight when disaster happens.
2007-02-25 22:25:13 · answer #9 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I'm very sorry for your loss
You're right, you can do nothing for her now. Turn your sadness into a different approach toward those people still living so that you never have to feel this way again.
2007-02-25 22:24:54 · answer #10 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋