i've lost interest in hanging out with friends and stuff...
but i feel fine!?!?!
i just want to watch tv, do my hair, hang out, eat, hang on the computer(sometimes i use messenger), STUDY, do my HW, and work on my looks!!!
i dunno why because i used to be really into socializing and stuff...like...i've even lost interest in boys!
i know i'm straight, but i have no interest in getting a boyfriend or having crushes(which i used to be OBSESSED WITH)...
one day i just woke up and now i've been like this...
but why???
is this normal???
i just turned 17 and i'm very content--not unhappy or anything!!!
thnx
xao:D
2007-02-25 14:14:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Cool! There are others like me! In high school I used to struggle with this constantly, feeling like something was wrong with me because I never wanted to be very social, and only had a few friends. It wasn't that I was afraid of public situations, I just prefered to hang out alone, and do things I wanted to do. Now I am comfortable with it, and my husband is the same way. We prefer to go out together, or stay at home and spend time just me and him, or just alone. It's [pretty cool because there are times when he just wants to be alone and read, or talk on the computer, and that's fine with me, because I take it as an opportunity to be alone as well. But when we feel the need to socialize, we go out just me and him, and it fulfills our need to be a little social now and then. We have the most awesome relationship. But of course, there is nothing wrong with you. You just find the most enjoyment in being alone. I love it, too. No need to worry about what this person is thinking about you, or if what you want to do at the moment is what this other person wants to do, you can just do what you want to do and feel good about it. I get the most fulfillment by hanging out alone. I have more fun by myself than I could hanging out with a large group of friends. Be yourself and enjoy it. If it makes you happy- do it!
2007-02-26 07:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsey H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is pretty normal as long as you don't have a mind to commit suicide or in a depressing stage. You say that you are ok with the way it is going so continue doing so. It is good to socialize but it is not required. Continue to treat yourself and enjoy your life. You shouldn't be obsessing over having a boyfriend because that is the least important thing in life. I think I am somewhat like you but I have always been like that. I am a person that go out every blue moon but mainly spend my time working, schooling, and just relaxing at home. Stay focus with your studies and I am sure you have been told this but its the truth. Education is the most important thing and will take you far in life. Dont turn into a person that is anti social and just to yourself.. it can be unhealthy if too serious. Anyways a short answer: ITS NORMAL could be a phase.
2007-02-25 14:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by babyapple2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually this is becoming more and more normal than you would think. People becoming anti social and or agoraphobic. I know at least 3 people that are this way. I am almost a recluse myself.
But to say this is actually normal? not really. We all need to keep our social skills honed. Otherwise we lose site of our purpose in life.
2007-02-25 14:27:10 · answer #3 · answered by Kill_Me_Now! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you are going through is normal. I am going through the same thing right now, and I am 22. I think that the reason for me putting myself first these days is because I have put myself last my whole life. I think there is a time to do things for yourself, and there is a time to do things for others. However, taking care of yourself, you can never go wrong with that :)
2007-02-25 14:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by lilyblossom84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like, it's probably a phase you're going through. Most people have times where they, like, get to know themselves better. Either that, or your previous social group sucks, and you've moved on. This could be a sign of growing older and wiser. Or, they grew up and left you behind.
Don't worry. It's probably a normal thing. Most of us have gone through it too.
2007-02-25 14:28:56 · answer #5 · answered by SA16 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're genuinely happy with been on your own, than maybe its because you finally realised that you dont need anyone's approval or accompanion for your own personal wellbeing thus taking time in solace to focus on your more important activities and to find out who you really are.
every young adult goes through that phase commonly known as soul-searching which is a solo process. enjoy the ride.
2007-02-25 14:19:27 · answer #6 · answered by astella_interrupted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. But maybe you might want to start keeping a diary and writing down your thoughts. You might start to understand through your own analysis of what you liked/disliked in your previous social life.
2007-02-25 14:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by gabrielbowers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are honestly happy then there is nothing wrong with it! Just don't complelty cut your self off from your friends in case one morning you wake up and want to start socializing again, but then again you might not want too!
2007-02-25 20:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by ctjones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its most likely a phase,and natural,as long as you always have someone to talk to if your ever down,then your do-in alright.this person you confide in ,you must be able to trust.you are quite normal and i bet you'll be back socializing before your 18.take care and have a great day.
2007-02-25 14:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by johny1punch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What i think of this situation is that you went from one extreme to another....Just be normal....I mean study and do everything and also have friends because you will eventually feel lonely....Good Luck
2007-02-25 14:20:38 · answer #10 · answered by CG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋