FOR ELEVEN YEARS I THOUGHT I HAD TWO KIDS BUT AFTER A DIVORCE FOUND THAT ONLY ONE CHILD WAS MINE. CHILD SUPPORT RAN MY CREDIT IN THE GROUND. I HAD THE DNA TEST DONE EXACTLY BEFORE DIVORCE WAS FINAL AND SHOWED IT TO THE CHILD SUPPORT OFFICE BUT THEY SAID I WOULD HAVE TO HIRE A PRIVATE LAWYER. I ARGUED THAT MY EX DIDN'T NEED ONE TO PUT ME ON CHILD SUPPORT AND THAT I HAVE PROOF THAT SHE HAS LIED NOT ONLY TO ME BUT TO THEM. IS THERE ANY WAY FOR ME TO GET MY MONEY BACK? AND DO YOU THINK THAT THE SYSEM IS FAIR TOWARDS MEN THAT WILL PROVIDE FOR KIDS NO MATTER WHAT?
2007-02-25 14:00:50 · 14 answers · asked by WILLIAMS 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your name is on the birth certificate, you are the father, regardlessof bloodtests. therefore you are responsible for the welfare of the Child. so it goes to show why you owe child support!
2007-02-25 14:07:09 · answer #1 · answered by Thumbs down me now 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't think the system is fair towards men at all. Seems that some women are the worst mothers these days and that they just love playing the victim to suck money out of their ex husband. It's sick and disgusting. The woman gets full custody and all the child support if she runs around with her legs spread while her husband is at home. Now women have sex and just pin the baby on the husband who isn't even the dad and that's just not right. I feel sorry for you. Best of luck to you. I hope you get your money back.
2007-02-25 14:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think sometimes it sucks! but my question is this after 11 years you would just say hey blood is thicker then water so see ya and not provide anything for this child i assume you have loved? its DNA should not change that i would figure it has not for that poor kid that when they think of their dad its you they think of and love. it was unfair that you got lied to in the first place but your right so did that poor kid but what is done is done and your her/his father and so i would think doing the best by your children would mean both of them because if you and their mom had stayed together you would still be there doing your parenting duty but now that mom and you have split you want to dump the kid like a poor mistake ? and i guess you must have had some idea the child was not yours since you asked for DNA so why not do this 11 years ago so that the child might of had a chance to form a relationship with its real dad since you don't seem to care about him/her! so your right it does suck it sucks that you were lied to! it sucks that you got stuck paying for a kid that's not yours! it sucks that this poor kid has a liar for mother and a dad who loved it only when DNA said they had to not because their heart told them to! good luck to you but most of all god bless that child who has to know what a burden they are to you and how after 11 years what counted was their DNA not the love they thought you two shared!
2007-02-25 14:16:18 · answer #3 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Husband of the woman is presumed to be legal father of the child born during the marriage which is your case. The fact that he is biologically not yours does not change the legal status which can be done only by petitioning the court. Otherwise in the eyes of the law you are and will be father. How about kid to you love him if so support him and enjoy him.
2007-02-25 14:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by bibus75 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
BASICS
--there are no "fathers rights" in child support
--there are no "mothers rights" in child support
--there are ONLY the "childs rights"
that law is like that because to that child, you were the father figure and the ONLY one they knew of (if you are not the father). it is in the best interest of the child(ren) to keep the relationship the way it was.
unless you like screwing up little kids. or is it just YOUR kid you wish to screw up? no? just the other one?
its not their fault you want to divorce them too. personally, i wouldnt even want that mentality around my children. nope.
where does the money go?
you pay what? 400? 600? 900?
ok, lets see...
rent; 1000
electric 300
food 400-600
diapers 75-150 per month (fluctuates when baby is sick or teething)
heat 300
phone/cable 100
auto; (for doctors, dentists, take to school when they miss the bus, pick up when sick, pick up medicines, get food) 200
clothing/shoes/boots 200-400 every 2 to 3 months (seasonal and they grow)
that doesnt even include dental, doctors, glasses, daycare, hair cuts, school supplies, school lunches, school projects, class trips, class pictures, over the counter medicines, prescriptions, laundry det, dish det, cleaners, soap, shampoo, toothpaste, acne medicine, pads, bras, christmas, easter, halloween, tooth fairy, birthdays, etc. and sooo much more.
Child Support didnt run your credit into the ground, YOU did. the amount of arrears it takes to even report it on your credit report is THOUSANDS of dollars you owe.
stop whining and pay your support.
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2007-02-26 03:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by Yvette B yvetteb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is horrible what your ex had, and has done. You might not be the biological father to one of your children, but I am 100% positive that same child feels you are the hero in their life. Is it worth any amount of $ to have the HERO ripped from their soul. You can't go back and take back the love you showed that child, just like you can't go back and have that money.
2007-02-25 16:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why didn't you show the DNA TEST to the court so they could have rule i dont understand you can still file court paper and show them the report then asked for refund on the one kid and tell them your ex had lied to you about the kid also asked for dna on both kids aswhile good luck
2007-02-25 14:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the child was born during your marriage to the mother, it would legally be your child and you would legally be responsible for it whether or not it was your child biologically. You are the child's legal father if not the child's biological father. The child is no way at fault in this and I hope you are treating it as your child and equal to it's sibling. As far as "is this fair"? No, it is not fair to you but it is fair to the child.
2007-02-25 14:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by why 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well, it is equally not fair to men and women, but they do the best they can; divorce is not fair........the parents have to provide for their children no matter what.........
don't type in all capital letters
2007-02-25 14:05:19 · answer #9 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out http://www.childsupportsaver.com for information on fathers' rights and what can be done in a situation such as this.
2007-02-25 14:29:44 · answer #10 · answered by spprtchld 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋