I'm 18 and I weighed 113 lbs before my bf dumped me last Christmas. I have since found out he was cheating on me with a girl at my school I have known and been very close with since I was 6 and shes a sophomore, two grades below me. I was very sick with strep throat recently in bed for a week unable to swallow so I lost alot of weight. Once I got better I saw that I looked better thinner and never gained the weight back. I started excercising more and eating healthier and now I weigh 103 lbs. I feel better, I look better (113 was too big now I realize). I thought I was thin back then but now when I look at pictures I can see that I was bigger than I thought.
I think about food alot now and I'm not as tempted as I once was to indulge in unhealthy snacks. I feel really different than I did before and I can't believe this guy dated me for so long when I was that size. My sister came in from college and said I look great and asked what my secret was. Is this normal/healthy?
2007-02-25 13:41:10 · 6 answers · asked by susie q 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm 5'3....sorry
2007-02-25 15:19:58 · update #1
First, what is your bone structure? Small, medium or big? You should only be healthier for you and no one else. Be careful how much you lose. You don't want to fall into the anorexia and/or bulimia illnesses. It's too easy to fall into if you want to lose weight, if you don't need to.
2007-02-25 13:47:39 · answer #1 · answered by Heyjay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our physical health is often a reflection of our inner health and happiness. It is actually pretty common for people to lose their appetite and thus lose weight after break-ups, periods of sickness, depression, or loss. In your case, you just happened by chance to lose weight to a healthier weight level. Listen to your own body - it will tell you if it feels healthy or not. You will feel it, just like you do now. So trust it.
You are probably a very likeable person, regardless of your weight, so don't be surprised that your ex dated you for so long.
The most important thing is to be happy with your Self. If you feel happier now because you like the way you look and you feel healthier, then of course this is healthy - both physically and mentally.
I feel very happy for you, actually. And I'm sure your family and friends do too... but always, the most important thing is what YOU think and feel about yourself, not other people.
P.S.
I have just read some of the other posts here that say you might have low self-esteem, or be in danger of anorexia. I must say, I strongly disagree with that assessment. You sound like a fairly healthy person regarding both. As far as I know, Anorexics obsess about being too fat, and would not be tempted to eat fatty snacks. The thought of most food probably disgusts them. If you have doubts about anorexia and being too thin, just ask your parents/sister - since they love you the most, they'll tell you the truth and be most worried about you, which they obviously haven't. In need of counseling? Not a chance, IMO. Again, listen to your body.
2007-02-25 14:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by sky2evan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm definitely no expert, and I don't know how tall you are, but it sounds unhealthy the way you describe it, only because you seem to have tied your self worth into your body image. Getting attention for losing weight is nice, but wondering how a boy could like you when you were ten pounds heavier is dangerous. As long as you're eating "healthy" and not just less, you're probably okay. Get involved in things that you're passionate about, find other things that make you feel good about yourself. It's when you feel comfortable and confident with who you are that the right guys will be attracted to you, not because of your dress size.
2007-02-25 14:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should be careful about how you rate your personal appearance in relation to your self-worth. It sounds healthy that you are eating healthy and exersizing but at the same time I doubt that 113lbs was overweight. I am 29 yrs. old now and went through some similiar things when I was your age. I gained some weight after getting married, ect. but when I look back at my old high school pictures, I think that I looked too skinny. Don't forget that your self-worth comes from inside...not a mirror.
2007-02-25 13:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by Gringarican 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Suzie Q, how ya doing. I don't think the issue here is really your weight. You seem to be suffering from low self esteem. I think you need counselling from someone in the field of psychology. The best place to start is your family doctor. I wouldn't put this off. I'm reading between the lines and I think you might be a good candidate for anorexia. Hang in there girl!
2007-02-25 13:54:59 · answer #5 · answered by The Hiker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention the 145 plus pounds of crap that you got rid of (boy friend). Congratulations.
2007-02-25 13:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by T C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋